To make this judgement about a potential date

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Aibu

in that I have been talking to this guy, he seems intelligent pleasant solvent, says he has his own house. However laid his cards on table and told me he has issues with his back and has been off work since October and is claiming universal credits.

i am a single mum I’ve claimed benefits whilst working.

my friend told me not to go for him for this reason. He also told me he can’t walk far and needs a stick.

part of me feels sorry part of me is like no way part of me likes him.

I am testing the waters of internet dating and wondered what other peoples thoughts were. Should I meet the guy and give him the chance or does it seem too much hard work?

Having been in a long-term relationship with someone who earned half my income and was extremely bitter about it, I wouldn't go near anyone on benefits for a relationship. You are hypocritical not to, given you're on benefits yourself.

Anyone can become disabled in a heartbeat, so his disability wouldn't bother me, assuming I fancied him and we got on well enough to meet.

The income thing would immediately turn me off, so it would be a no from me in this instance.

You say claimed benefits whilst working. Are you not anymore? Honestly I'd struggle in the sense that I'd like someone new to be kind of in the same place in their life such as saving for a mortgage or someone studying to get a better job. Or someone solvent and in a steady career. I got burnt by someone financiallly once and vowed I'd like to be in financial equal footing