To not want to go to work in Amsterdam

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DontWantToWork · 21/01/2008 11:58

I have to go to Amsterdam with the company i work for next week to train some new employees in how to use our software and i just dont want to go!

Ds is 18mths and i'm a very clingy mum, i think i might get seperation anxiety if i go, i've only been back at work for a week after having 2 months off with depression and anxiety, i'm just starting to feel normal-ish again, then i get told to go to Holland and now i can feel myself getting anxious again and not wanting to go to work at all.

But i can't get out of going, the flights are booked and im the only one skilled enough to train these people. I've done this loads of time before but in my current state of mind im feeling very nervous and self concious about doing it. Plus i know i will miss ds.

I know there is noting really that anyone can do but i just needed to talk about it. Thanks for listening.

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theUrbanDryad · 21/01/2008 12:09

aww....who will ds be with while you're away? with dh/p? or other family?

could you set up a Skype account or something if you have a laptop? then you could talk to him in the mornings and at bedtimes, stop you missing him so much?

FWIW i'm very - would love a week away without ds! i'm a terrile mum! and Amsterdam can be lovely too!

Chequers · 21/01/2008 12:09

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DontWantToWork · 21/01/2008 12:13

Unfortunately it is part of my contract, ds will be staying with his dad, my xp. I guess its not the end of the world. Just wish i wasnt so anxious! i never used to be

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DontWantToWork · 21/01/2008 12:15

And i could ask xp to put his webcam on so i could see ds

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purpleduck · 21/01/2008 12:33

have you been away since ds was born?

Its bound to feel weird the first time, but its not too far away.

I sympathise, but god, i would love to go for a week

soopermum1 · 21/01/2008 12:41

i had to go to canada a few years ago, for work, when DS was quite small. it was OK, and i go to amsterdam for the weekend with work every september. the first few itmes was fine then it was hard this year as my mum put DS on the phone and he said he wanted me to come home to him in a really sad voice, that really got me feeling bad.

don't worry about DS, he's too young to have ny lasting memories about the separation and if my son is anything to go by, when small, really ddin't care when i was away, it's only now that he's older that he feels it.

get 'owl babies' and read it to him. it's about a mummmy owl who goes away but always comes back, my DS got the point of it straight away.

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