To go away for the weekend

[MumMedou]

So my family are having a get together a 2 hour drive away from where we live, I will be leaving DH at home with our 2 and 5 year old but I feel so guilty.

Why?

Can you all go?

Not enough info. Are your husband and children not invited? Or did you and your husband decide it makes sense for you to go alone and for him to stay with the children?

A break is really good for you. And dh will likely have a nice time with the children.

Give dh a day off the weekend before or after and if he gets thw chance of a weekend break encourage him to take it.

Why do you feel guilty?

Oh ffs just go

Sounds lovely! Enjoy it. Don't feel guilty, the children will be fine and you'll have a nice time.

No reason to feel guilty. It will be a good time for your DH to bond with the kids. They need quality time with him too.

What is there to feel guilty about? I expect another time he will go somewhere and you will be at home with the children.

I’d be running out the door 🤣

I don't understand what the problem is.

Is the voting AIBU to go, or AIBU to feel guilty?

Anyway, why are your DH and kids not involved in the get together?

But if it isn’t that kind of family get together what on earth is the problem with a Dad looking after his kids for the weekend? He loves them, they will be safe, happy, secure…

You are a human being in your own right, with friends and family. Your children and DH are not plumbed into your heart and stomach dependent on you for every need at every moment.

Surely you husband has time alone away from the children, this is yours to be yourself rather than a mother.
Go and enjoy yourself and socialising without distractions.
If you think it will help your state of mind, prep up some favourite meals and left a little goodie bag for them but I'm sure your DH will have it all in hand.

I’m off to a child free wedding tomorrow, will be leaving DH with a 2yo and a 3mo for 23 hours (11am Saturday to 10am Sunday). I’ll also be 2 hours away. Have some slight guilt about the 3mo and the fact DH will be knackered but he’s doing similar next month and it’s important we carve out time to just be ‘us’, not just be parents all the time. Go and enjoy!

Of course go.

Why would you feel guilty?

I wouldn't go OP and feel too guilty to even consider enjoying myself in my own right.

Stay at home where your kids and DH cannot possibly manage without you, whilst you martyr yourself .

FFS, just go and have a life outside your DH and kids.

Is he sulking and making you feel guilty? If so, he’s a dick.

He’ll manage. He’s their parent too. Go and enjoy yourself!

Why aren't your children invited if it's a family get together?

Your children won't spontaneously combust because you leave them with their other parent.

do you want to go? Well go

if not, don’t.

no trivia.

Aren’t they invited? Why would you feel guilty? Does he get a weekend away on his own too?

If it's family thing I'd want my kids there? Is it a pub/ drinking think then not so much?

I voted YANBU but I mean YANBU to go, not to feel guilty

I bet your husband wouldn't feel guilty if the tables were turned.