To put DS in another room for naps?

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My DS is 10 weeks. I have an older child who is 2. The advice given is that they have to stay in the same room as you for all sleep, including naps, to reduce risk of SIDS. Can someone tell me how this is possible for day naps when you have an older child??

We can tell her to be quiet over and over. But she’s 2, she forgets, and screams sometimes when she gets excited or happy or accidentally drops her book, or any number of reasons. With my first we were really strict with keeping everything quiet and prioritising sleep, but when you have your second it seems this all gets thrown out the window. Yesterday his naps were absolutely non existent due to being interrupted constantly and he was so stressed the poor thing.

I can do one nap when we’re out and about which works, but I can’t realistically do 3 4 naps everyday like this. AIBU to get a baby camera and let him sleep in his cot for naps in a different room while watching it like a hawk?

They can learn to sleep with noise - very useful in long term. My DD would sleep through hammering and all kinds of noise, I now joke she would sleep through a small war.

I never kept it quiet for naps when my first child was that age, i wanted her to be able to sleep through noise.

Can you try and time the naps qith your 2yo naps as well? Or start doing quiet time with 2yo - maybe watch a film, or tablet or something when baby is napping to try and keep it quieter if thats what you want?

I don't think the people who give this advice have a clue as to what it's like to be responsible for more than one child. If this is the only thing that works for you then do it and maybe keep going into baby's room to check.

I agree I wouldn't want baby in another room but you need to tailor it so older one is quieter. So reading, colouring, telly time etc. The reality is baby will have to learn to nap in noise but it IS harder. I had 4 month old twins and a nearly 5 yo when lockdown happened so we were just stuck in the house every day trying to get two babies to nap whilst the 4 yo created chaos about homeschooling

Oh we don’t keep it quiet at all! Realised very early on this child needs to learn to sleep with noise. So we have two tvs on in the living room on different channels (so when one is quiet there is always noise!) and normal talking, etc. But it’s the sudden increase in volume that 2 year olds tend to do that jars him awake.

Once he’s in a deep sleep there’s no issue, he sleeps through everything. It’s just getting him there. And I can’t hold him for 20 30 mins every time to get him there as the toddler inevitably needs a nappy change, or some squash, or snack, or help with her toy that she’s lost or something.

He’s really good at falling asleep himself as well which is great for his age and I want to make sure he practices it, but it’s impossible to do with the toddler in the same room.

I have 2 children, a 4yo and a newborn baby.

I'm doing the exact advice i gave 🤷🏼‍♀️

My DD2 is 9 weeks and naps are just in sling, pram if we are out, on me if I'm sitting doen etc. Sometimes she gets startled by noise DD1 makes but if she's in close contact with me she just goes back to sleep.

Honestly j don't know how I would cope without the sling! She's in it for hours a day asleep in there.

After your last post OP then you need to explain to your 2yo that thry need to be quiet. My DD was only just 2yo when we went into lockdown, i was working from home and i taught her/explained to her that she had to be quiet when i was on the phone with work calls, which she did quite quickly. If you only need 20mins for baby to go into deep sleep then do aome snacks and tv for those 20mins to distract toddler from noisy play

So we have two tvs on in the living room on different channels (so when one is quiet there is always noise!

Isn't this incredibly annoying?!

With DC2 we had an open plan kitchen/living space so used to put DC2 in the corner with white noise app nearby and she would sleep well.

With DC3 we moved house so couldn’t do that. I used to start the nap with DC1 and 2 having a snack and watching something on TV, DC3 in bouncer so I could keep bouncing him. If 1&2 we’re getting too restless and unsettled I would take them into another room but keep checking on DC3 every 5 mins. I’d leave the TV on as well to try to keep him getting used to the noise. Would try to get half an hour of the older two being quiet watching tv or reading to them before we left as DC3 would only sleep for 45 mins at a time so he wasn’t alone for very long.

He’s been napping in his cot since he was 6 months and it’s so much easier!

Mine certainly wasn't capable of being taught be quiet at 2. Luckily baby wasn't too bad at sleeping with some noise but that's not true of all babies.

Why do you have 2 tvs on in the same room?

This has lived in my brain since I read it, just the thought of it is making me stressed.