… sex but no orgasm = bad/poor night’s sleep

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Posting here for traffic only. Don’t need any details, a yes/no vote would be fine.

yabu = if I have sex, but no orgasm, then I sleep just fine, no problem!
yanbu = if I have sex but no orgasm, then I really don’t sleep well

to give some context, I’m with DH for many years. Starting new job in a few weeks, and as I prepare for early morning start, then I become more aware of my sleep patterns. Can’t really ask many people in real life, just a few.

There are women who almost never do with any partner, or who at certain times wouldn't with any partner. Not everyone is the same. But you know, even those women might want to have a relationship, intimacy, etc.

I’ve had a change in my hrt meds and suddenly it’s very hard to orgasm and they don’t feel the same

sex still feels amazing but if I don’t / can’t orgasm then I definitely can’t sleep afterwards it’s really annoying

There are things that you need to change.

Ensure you have your full lunch break at work and switch off and make it "me time".

Putting DD to bed and her evening routine - it needs to be shared and I suggest you go out one evening per week so he has to do it. Same with night wakenings you need one or two nights per week where he does it and you sleep properly.

There are women who almost never do with any partner, or who at certain times wouldn't with any partner. Not everyone is the same. But you know, even those women might want to have a relationship, intimacy, etc.

Honestly, I'm pretty certain this is simply the result of people not understanding their own sexuality/ needs/ bodies enough and their partners being the same. But I know many people will disagree.

I mean, there are toys and things that make it pretty much impossible for someone not to orgasm. I struggle to believe people have tried all of the things that could help and still can't, at all, ever in their entire lives.

I'm the exact opposite