To spend 45 minutes trying to print a medical form out for my suddenly tech-illiterate "D"H

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Somehow, he thinks I'm the possessor of the "magic keys" which enable things to be printed out.

It's an old printer. I've had to download drivers, then discover they are drivers from some dodgy site which don't work, clean up my machine, and start again.

45 minutes when I'm TIRED. It's now AFTER MIDNIGHT.

The form is a questionnaire for his scan tomorrow (a private scan because he has health anxiety).

I have just thrown the printout at him, but he's been asleep for half-an-hour and is snoring away.

I feel like an idiot. I thought it would take 2 minutes. He is the thief of all my free time, because I don't spot it coming, and think 'well, I'm the Printer Whisperer, and the poor lamb just doesn't know how to install drivers, and after all he does occasionally do the bins'.

He is being unreasonable to ask you to do it so late.

Just don’t do it again, he will just have to go to the library or an internet cafe.

Would he help you in a similar scenario?

New house, couldn’t make head nor tail of the timer on the central heating boiler. I googled it, downloaded the manual and got it working. Now I am the boiler whisperer and DH has lost the ability to Google, or even read the bloody pages of the manual that I printed out and shoved in his hands.

All winter I get “what time does the heating come on in the morning” etc. The other day he turned the heating on by accident and didn’t even notice that the radiators were red hot, just left the door open because it was a bit warm.

Hes got degrees and qualifications coming out of his wazoo, he’s not stupid. He told me once that when I try to explain it to him, his brain tells him that it’s unimportant shit he doesn’t have to remember, so he doesn’t.

He does more housework than me, so it’s not that he doesn’t pull his weight. He just takes a very long time to get used to new things.

Couldn't he have filled it in online?

My DH doesn't even know how to turn the laptop or tablet on. He only started texting about 6 yrs ago when I showed him how to 'talk' a text rather than typing it so basically clicking on the little microphone bit and then pressing send, even then I had to explain it a gazillion times.

He makes my teeth itch when he makes a phone call as he has to 'push' the numbers like they are a landline phone but at least I don't have to worry about him downloading stuff as this would be way over his head.

Well yes you shouldn't go to that kind of trouble at midnight, so yabu to do it for him, he could have just jotted down the questions instead. Any reason voting set up topsy-turvy like this? People will end up checking off the other choice from what they wanted.

To be fair, my printer suddenly decided to stop hooking up to my main device, and I spent ages trying to fix things but to no avail.

I gave up and now have to use another device to send whatever I need to my phone, and print from there.

If it suddenly decides to stop recognising my phone, I'm fucked.