Hi all
Need some advice from fellow women/mums.
I’ve recently ended a 10 year relationship/marriage. It’s been dead for a long time. But we are great friends and co-parents.
In pursuit of finding myself again - I recently started going to a local church, and met some lovely new people. Long story short I started having a fling with one of the single men from church. He’s very involved with the church and is training as a minister himself. It’s only been a couple of weeks (when the kids are not here at home) we’ve been spending a lot of time together…
But, this guy is very religious, he’s only been in our church about 2 years after escaping a more cult like church which has left him with a lot of anguish/self doubt/ mixed up ideas of things. He is feeling so guilty and bad about what we are doing and he keeps wanting to talk and go over it. I’ve made clear I’m not looking for marriage or babies but I admit I do have some feelings for him, I started off thinking I could handle an emotion-less fling but I do really like him and think about it a lot. He doesn’t want to marry me thankfully. But he is struggling with what this is somehow. He keeps wanting to talk. He ended things and said we should just be friends just last week. But then he manufactured a way to bump into me deliberately and said he was very excited to see me. We talked following that and now we are ‘back on’ but he keeps coming with these heavy feelings of guilt about the whole thing.
AIBU? How should I deal with this situation?
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