Tips for ? Social tiredness

[Rubi2]

Hi everyone I’m not even sure if my title reflects my question but hoping to gain some tips from people who may feel the same.

To the outside world I appear an extrovert, I’m fairly confident with new people, have a job that requires me to be confident which I can do. If I’m in the right mood I really enjoy going out and socialising BUT.. more often than not I feel so tired in company and one minute can be enjoying being out in a group and the next feel completely mentally and physically tired that I want to go home or be by myself. I hate the idea that I may come across as rude or uninterested but it’s like my brain switches off and I can barely hold a conversation. Does anyone else have this or found ways to overcome it? I don’t like that I need to take time out alone to re charge so often especially as people may perceive I’m in a bad mood when I’m not.

TIA

This is a reassuring read. I can relate with every single post, I suppose there is no magic answer except taking the time when we need it. If only it was more socially accepted to just be honest about it. My husband who is the total opposite to me is very good though and knows now when I need some time out.

I do try and plaster on a fake smile now when I’m out to avoid the “ cheer up” type comments but it’s hard work. I guess there is no magic fix but this had post has made me think maybe some of my friends are also like this as it’s not just me

I am an extrovert and feel the same. Energy is a limited resource.

You are all my people! I'm outgoing, give excellent presentations at work etc but often feel a sense of relief when leaving a social group - even if I've had the best time with amazing people - because I know I can just be in my head again. It bugs me when people equate introversion with being shy!

No tips though, except always take you phone to the loo so you can sit quietly for a couple of minutes...

I can totally relate to his, and it’s actually making me feel better how many others are the same. Outwardly, I present as an extravert but I’m often depleted of energy after a particularly busy day at work or night out.

When I was a teenager, I’d go clubbing with friends and would hit the wall and get a taxi home by midnight whereas they’d be out until the early hours. I’m a lot older now and enjoy socialising with friends, but I always reach the stage where I’m wondering what’s the earliest time I can leave. I will be having the loveliest time chatting with friends, but then want to head home. I’m not a big drinker, and like to drive so that I can head home at a time that suits me. I suspect I have a reputation amongst my friends of being a bit boring, which is a shame but I can’t change who I am and I wouldn’t expect them to.

I’m a bit like the energiser bunny - I hit a wall and need to power down.

Oh, me too. You are my tribe ( sigh of relief) .
I present as outgoing...inside it becomes such an effort. And the PP who mentioned weddings...yes, yes, yes! They go on so long and require a monumental effort.

I just avoid what I can and make sure I have the means to escape when I need to ( ie no reliant on someone else for a lift).

This is me - but I thought I was a Ambivert:
'An ambivert is someone who exhibits qualities of both introversion and extroversion, and can flip into either depending on their mood, context, and goals. Ambiverts have also been called: Outgoing introverts: An introvert who can be outgoing in certain situations, around certain people, or when they absolutely need to.'

Gosh weddings, yes!
I spend most of the time standing around chatting and looking like I’m having a great time but wondering when it’s acceptable to leave !😆
I always have a means of exit (I usually drive) and If I’m dependant on a lift I start to feel unwell and claustrophobic….
I don’t have social anxiety - I like social situations in fact - but I have to know I can leave any time - as when I’m done with a social situation - I’m done!

I don't think I'm an ambivert. I don't flip between introversion and extroversion, I'm just very practised at masking the introversion when I need to. Doesn't mean I feel comfortable with it, or that it isn't exhausting.

It's not a flip from one to the other.
You are you - but you've got your foot in both camps.
Social sometimes - but alone time recharging other times

Yes. I tend to stop talking and just listen when I get tired. I'm fine after sleep.

Mind you, I live alone, so it's not often anyone notices.

Another happy introvert here.
I avoid social gatherings- I rarely enjoy them.
It's an energy thing for me too.
I am not shy or have anxiety in large groups, my social skills are fine, talking to strangers is easy, but all that chit chat leaves me like a husk.
Conversely having a day at home alone leaves me feeling energised, calm and happy.
I spent years attending parties, meals out with groups of people maintaining lots of friends but I never enjoyed it- I did it to meet the expectations of others.
Now I am confident enough in my own skin to be true to myself.

I often find I want to plan social things but when the time comes I feel like I just want to be boring and have my own company 🙈