Would it bother you if nursery kept spelling your child's name wrong?

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My son has a normal name, nothing wild or out there. But it has a couple of different spellings like, for example, Finlay/Finley (not real name)

Nursery can never seem to get it consistently right. He comes home with what seems like a different variation of the spelling on everything. His pictures will come home with one whereas the things uploaded to the parents page will have another etc..

Do I say something or just leave it? I'm not annoyed or anything but not sure if I should keep correcting it or not? I have mentioned it before to his key worker when she asked me to sign an accident form with the wrong spelling.

How many variations is it. 2? Or more?

Yes, it would bother me a lot. You'd think they could get each child's name right!

On the flip side, one of mine was in the local paper and I was so impressed they had got everything right which probably shows I expect mistakes!

(as in the newspaper had got all spellings and info correct!)

YANBU. This happens with our surname which is fairly normal but has a number of variations. I would expect someone you have an ongoing relationship with such as a school or nursery to get it right.

Although I have been married for 16 years and my mother still can't get it right.

If its just the one misspelling that comes up I'd correct it by saying it's finley with an e not an a. If it's multiple variations I'd speak to the manager.

I have a name that has 3 common spellings. People have been mixing up the spelling for the last 4 decades. Its what happens when you pick a name like that. You and your son need to get used to this cause its going to happen for ever.

There's 3 variations I've seen them use, the correct one and then two incorrect ones. But it just seems to be all the time. He's even down wrong on the register they have!

I would. My dad's name spelled the English way although there's a French way too. I would have thought eg juliet more likely than julienne but perhaps not.
I used to correct everybody repeatedly

Juliette I mean. Auto correct

The thing is, I'd say our variation is the most common! One I don't even think is a normal variation of the name!

Anyway, should I be correcting it every time do you think or just letting it slide? Like I say, I'm not mad or anything. Just feels a bit awkward.

Well then you should correct people every single time.

OP I'd definitely say something

No. I couldn't give a tinker's cuss. My son's school has consistently referred to him as 'Casper' when it's 'Caspar'. He doesn't care, and nor do I.

Speak to the manager then. You want your child to be able to recognise his own name

That's a good point actually. I hadn't even thought of it from the POV of him learning his name.

My dd not my dad. Omg how do I turn off this auto correct! 🙈

Yeah we had to work with our nursery. Ds is Aidan. We were getting Aiden, Aden and Ayden.

Corrected every single time and several letters sent. Aidan is the original spelling (St Aidan was in Lindisfarne in the 600s AD though I see the name might have evolved). But nursery were way out of order wringing different versions on art etc. he was being taught to write his name and it doesn't matter if it's one vowel or a triple barrelled yoonique spelling, children should always be taught how to write their own name properly for the name the children have been given!

I would say something as when he is a bit older and they start to encourage him to write his name they need to use the correct spelling.

I would probably speak to the manager and word it something like 'can I check the official spelling you have down for Finlay as his is often spelt differently by different members of staff'.

As a nursery nurse definitely bring it up! I'd want to know if it was me that had miss spelled a child's name. How can they help your child to recognise the letters of their own name if they can't spell it themselves!

Thanks. I'll mention it then. Just hate the thought of being that parent but like you say, he needs to be being taught the right name himself if they are going to be practicing there!

100% mention it. How is the poor kid supposed to learn to recognise and eventually write his own name if the staff can’t even manage it?!

My ds regularly had his name spelt incorrectly by nursery. I only really mentioned on official forms etc, not if they wrote it on a piece of art. He is 6 now and will point it out himself if he sees it spelt differently anywhere

On 'official' things like reports, coat pegs, book bags, letters home it should definitely be spelled right. Accident forms must be correct.

However what I will say about names on pictures - the art area can be busy, children start a painting and abandon it, come and go, different adults are trying to get names on pictures before they get put up to dry. It might not be an adult who always knows your child well.
If there are children called Reiley, Rylie and Rylee it isn't always easy to get the right spelling and if the adult hasn't seen the name written down they might assume it is Riley.

An occasional slip, I'd overlook, especially if they have a child with one of the other spellings as well.

But if it's wrong on their register, that definitely needs correcting - it could well be that when staff aren't sure, they look there, and so the mistake is perpetuated. I would bring it to someone's attention that they haven't got the correct spelling on the register, and ask that they remind staff of the correct spelling, and to check if they're not sure.

I was once told (by his friend) that I was mis-spelling a pupil's name. I knew I was using the one on the register, but I had seen the other spelling on some other list, so I asked the boy which was correct. It turned out that his mother and father spelled it differently when transliterating from Urdu!

I mention it quite frequently with my son's nursery, they sometimes get it right sometimes wrong. I just think that they are trying to teach him to recognise and write his name so they must spell it right. Normal name just 2 ways of spelling both acceptable and normal

He’ll need to spell it himself soon so it might be a bit confusing for him if the adults teaching him can’t bloody spell it correctly. Definitely mention it.