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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Would you be annoyed at your DP?

9 replies

Truf · 18/08/2022 17:31

My mum phoned this morning, offering to have my DC overnight. I excitedly messaged my DP and we looked at going to the cinema, but nothing decent was on. Then he suggested going to a health spa for a swim and sauna. We settled on this plan and he was going to look into booking it. I packed my bags ready and sent DC on their way.

Then I get a text at 4pm, saying his friend had just turned up for a drink and he'd forgotten he'd already made plans with this particular friend (this is true as he sent me the text message, the drink with this friend had been organised last week). He said, if I didn't mind, that he would invite some of his friends and we'd all go out. I said yes, as long as there were some females invited and going because I didn't fancy being the lone woman in a group of his male friends. He's now text to say he's organised the drinks, but it's only his male friends going. I have no friends to invite as it's all too last minute. I really don't fancy sitting in a pub with my DP and five of his male friends all drinking beer.

AIBU to be annoyed? I feel really disappointed and think he's very been disorganised and thoughtless!

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Merryoldgoat · 18/08/2022 17:43

YANBU but can’t you go alone? I’d already be out the door!

Truf · 18/08/2022 17:44

@Merryoldgoat I am very tempted and feel like doing just that!

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BiggerBoat1 · 18/08/2022 17:46

But you can do anything you want. Don't just stay home being cross and chatting to people on here - get out and enjoy your freedom!

I get that you're disappointed but I don't think your DH has actually done anything wrong.

Peashoots · 18/08/2022 17:47

Ahh op. I totally get why you’re disappointed but I think it’s unreasonable to be annoyed at DP. His plans were in place first, maybe there were no women available to tag along at last minute. I wouldn’t expect him to drop his friend last minute. It’s unfortunate and frustrating but just one of those things I think.

Teacupsandtoast · 18/08/2022 17:48

Yeah he's a twat but fire on out the door....go see where the crawdads sing, or go for a lovely walk, or for a swim....text your friends and see if anyone is free for a walk etc, you never know, they may well be!

Truf · 18/08/2022 17:54

I'm going to go out and do something myself. I won't just sit around all evening. I just feel disappointed. I don't expect him to cancel on his friend, and I understand they made the plan first, it's just annoying that he forgot and wasn't organised and now, what was meant to be us spending a nice evening together, is him and his friends going out drinking and me doing something on my own. It's very likely my friends will all be busy - they are all mothers to very small DCs.

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Shoxfordian · 18/08/2022 17:56

Do you use a joint calendar or something to make sure you know what each other is up to?

Teacupsandtoast · 19/08/2022 07:37

Hope you had a nice evening OP

toffeechai · 19/08/2022 08:40

Shoxfordian · 18/08/2022 17:56

Do you use a joint calendar or something to make sure you know what each other is up to?

This. Sounds like you need a way to track what’s meant to be happening.

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