To find this behaviour from DP rude/hurtful

[AIBprecious]

I don't think there is any malice in it but I find it quite hurtful and a bit rude actually.

I have alot of stress in my life at the minute such as a sick parent in hospital among other things i have no control over.

I haven't been sleeping well as whenever I lay down and close my eyes at night time I'm getting palpitations and a strange adrenaline surge feeling which I'm 90% sure is anxiety and stress related.

I was telling DP about it this morning (the first time I've mentioned it so its not a case of him being sick of me moaning) and he just blanked what I said, he heard me clearly as he was sat opposite looking at me but obviously thought no response was necessary. He got up and started pottering around and changed the subject.

It has happened before. He isn't very socially aware.

AIB precious to find it hurtful and actually quite rude?

YANBU at all.

You say your DH isn't very socially aware - I'd say that's an understatement, based on your description here.

I think a lot of people do feel awkward or uncomfortable when someone tells them something that's concerning, or for which the other person can't really offer an actual solution. But most people would manage to say something, even if it's just something really bland like 'Try not to worry about it, I'm sure it will pass' or something practical like 'Maybe you should make a doctor's appointment' or even just a vaguely sympathetic 'That doesn't sound very nice for you'. To give you literally no reaction whatsoever suggests a pretty major empathy deficit.

Very odd and hurtful. DH can be a bit like this but not quite as bad.

I'm sorry you're having struggles, OP.

What's your partner like in other areas of your relationship?

Thank you for the replies

As I mentioned in my OP it's not the first time something like this has happened, I couldn't possibly keep count but it's frequent enough for me to think "oh, this again" when it happens.

The most notable instance was after a friend of mine passed away and I was fondly recounting a memory I had of them, he offered no response whatsoever to what I was saying and started talking about the car.

I don't want to throw labels about as I know MN don't take kindly when negative behaviours are attributed to neurodiversity but let's just say that both he and I know very well that he has some social deficits that are in line with certain conditions (one of which our child is formally diagnosed with)

I try not to hold it against him as he is who he is but i do feel incredibly unheard alot of the time.

Does he show other emotions, AIBprecious? Does he ever show empathy to/about other people or things?