looking for some opinions please.
I have 2 sons, one has ASD (4) and one is NT (5) they have been going to see their dad Tuesdays and Saturdays (he is a shift worker but can get an agreement, also has 2 days off in the week) Saturday I would drop them off to their older sister at 1.30 for their dad to come back after work, the sister has now got a Saturday job so their dad is now saying that he will pick them up at 4.30 on a Saturday and they will be back at 10am on a Sunday… I’m not 100% happy with this mostly because of my ASD child and his need for routine and also, no quality time is being spent as they are going to bed 2-3 hours after he even picks them up, so I’ve said that I’m not happy with that…. Am I being unreasonable? Also to be totally transparent, I don’t have any family where I am, I stayed close so their dad could have a relationship with them, so also it really restricts me too, is it bad that I would also like to have some ‘free’ time (couldn’t say this to him as he is a master manipulator of words) it’s really difficult being a single parent and also having a child with additional needs and no support is hard sometimes too.
He’s now saying he will only have them once a week on the Tuesday and he is taking me through mediation ( I have tried to take him to mediation twice and he’s ignored it) saying im stopping him seeing his kids etc etc.
ive tried to write this as clearly as possible to give the reader an idea of the situation as I really want to know if I’m being unreasonable. Thank you x