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Finances

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Chat55 · 17/08/2022 22:53

AIBU to feel annoyed that my partner has been discussing my finances with his family? The only reason I found out is because he was speaking with them that I should try get an increase and decided he would then tell me how they came up with a solution. I am happy with my income and want as little stress possible.
We are planning on moving in together soon and I don’t earn much compared to him, he earns 3 times more but whatever I do have I will contribute my half towards our bills like I have done from the beginning of our relationship four our activities, outings, breaks away etc.
I’m a firm believer in finances remaining private unless disclosed to said person but anywhere beyond that I feel they shouldn’t be discussed if they wish to keep it private. AIBU? I would never talk about anyones finances to anyone else if they disclosed it

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Kite22 · 17/08/2022 23:46

Are you buying together ?
Are they helping him out ?
How old are you both ?

I agree with you in theory about not discussing anyone else's business with other people, but in terms of moving in with someone, if it were something one of my dc were asking advice on (which they all have before moving out / committing to either renting or buying) then I would put certain questions to my (adult) dc to check they were aware of X/Y/Z and had done all their calculations.

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