Not talking to partner over football!

Loola08 · 2022-08-17T18:44:59+00:00

My husband wanted to watch a match Sunday, but had no beers left.i went to get him some with my 13 year old daughter leaving him with ds 8 and 2.I was gone 20 mins and came home to him shouting how I have no brain cells in my head and leaving me with them meant he couldn’t watch the match and how senseless I was!i said I didn’t realise you needed help to look after the 2 boys and he said I should apologise for my mistake!i haven’t and we haven’t talked since.is it unreasonable to think he could have managed on his own for 20 minutes?i do it all day every day with 4 kids and 2 dogs!!

Revolvingwhore · 17/08/2022 19:46

Some men just don't like being around their children. They'll regret it one day, you'd hope.

HeadacheEarthquake · 17/08/2022 19:49

I'd have laughed in his face. He can get his own beer next time

Better still, take yourself out with mate next match for a nice lunch.

Original poster

Loola08 · 17/08/2022 19:54

Honestly I was shocked, i said well i don’t get to watch anything for 2 hours in a day lol!and didn’t know you are in capable of looking after your kids!
and the silence continues.i don’t feel like backing down because I’m not apologising for doing something for him and didn’t leave my daughter to babysit!

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FrankLampardsBrokenHand · 17/08/2022 20:21

I'd have gladly poured the beers down the sink, unplugged the router and took sky card out of the box.
Who the fuck does he think he is? And why does he think that because he's watching something on TV he isn't a parent. And I say that as an avid football fan.

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/08/2022 20:23

I’m not apologising for doing something for him and didn’t leave my daughter to babysit!

He's angry the support humans didn't multitask well enough that he could freely enjoy his life without a care.

Raise your bar. Never buy him beer again because he was so ungrateful this time.

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 17/08/2022 20:28

Revolvingwhore · 17/08/2022 19:46

Some men just don't like being around their children. They'll regret it one day, you'd hope.

Yep this. I know many women who have a husband/partner, who wanted very little to do with the children when they were babies/ toddlers/ infants/ primary age and even secondary age... they preferred to go to work a lot - or go out with their mates, or go to various sporting and hobby activities...... and would do anything but be part of the family responsibility and looking after the children.

Now, the kids are in their early 20s plus, the men are butthurt and sore, and pissed off, coz the adult children now want very little to do with him, and everything is really all about their mum. They only want to visit to see their mum, they only want to socialise with their mum, and they only want to talk to their mum. They will talk to their dad maybe 10 or 15% of the time, but they largely communicate much better with their mum.

So you men who you can't be arsed with your kids - just remember, you will regret it one day, coz they will forever favour their mum, trust me. And you be left out in the cold, as the kids will always choose their mum over you.

HeadacheEarthquake · 17/08/2022 20:42

Is he always such an immature spoiled brat or is this the first time?

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/08/2022 20:46

Now, the kids are in their early 20s plus, the men are butthurt and sore, and pissed off, coz the adult children now want very little to do with him, and everything is really all about their mum. They only want to visit to see their mum, they only want to socialise with their mum, and they only want to talk to their mum. They will talk to their dad maybe 10 or 15% of the time, but they largely communicate much better with their mum.

I can pinpoint the exact moment DD started to really love and appreciate her dad. She was sick with norovirus, so was I, throwing up everywhere. I couldn't look after her so DH did. For three days he wiped her, hugged her, changed her clothes and sheets, brought her drinks. They were (and still are) a little team.

Kids know who cares. If it's only mum, they only really give back to mum.

Dads who don't give a shit will get that right back.

abovedecknotbelow · 17/08/2022 20:47

@MrsTerryPratchett has it right there.

Carlycat · 17/08/2022 22:30

I know where I'd stick his beers...

Cruisebabe1 · 18/08/2022 19:38

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/08/2022 20:46

Now, the kids are in their early 20s plus, the men are butthurt and sore, and pissed off, coz the adult children now want very little to do with him, and everything is really all about their mum. They only want to visit to see their mum, they only want to socialise with their mum, and they only want to talk to their mum. They will talk to their dad maybe 10 or 15% of the time, but they largely communicate much better with their mum.

I can pinpoint the exact moment DD started to really love and appreciate her dad. She was sick with norovirus, so was I, throwing up everywhere. I couldn't look after her so DH did. For three days he wiped her, hugged her, changed her clothes and sheets, brought her drinks. They were (and still are) a little team.

Kids know who cares. If it's only mum, they only really give back to mum.

Dads who don't give a shit will get that right back.

So true