DP has pissed me right off

[LittlemissMama67]

Last night we went up to bed at around 11 and I felt fine, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and on preeclampsia watch. At around half 11 I was sick so checked my blood pressure and it was really high so I called delivery suite and had to go over to be checked out. We got there at midnight and got out at about half 5 this morning. He slept In a chair all night granted it wasn't the best sleep but he did sleep, I didn't.

we got in at 6 this morning and went straight to bed, our kids were looked after in the night by his mum. This morning at 8am our 2 year old woke up shouting and balling the house down and I know he could hear it but as per usual it was muggings here who got up and dealt with the kids.

I've been sat here fizzing all morning I've just gone up woke him up and called him a selfish bastard. Am I being unreasonable or is he being totally selfish. I mean I'm 8 months pregnant but obviously he needs sleep more

I'm more annoyed at the fact I knew he would do it, if I've got a cold he's got pneumonia it's fucking annoying.

Get yourself back to bed once he's risen from his pit

Why didn’t you make him get up? Nothing will change while you allow this to continue.

You didn’t have to. You chose to for an easy life.

I did attempt to but he acts dead to the world, and yeah I know but as mums we just get on with it don't we

Should have left him to get up

Being a mum doesn’t mean you accept shitty behaviour from your partner. You don’t just shut up and put up.

My husband would never behave like that (he gets up with the children at 6 every morning) and I wouldn’t be with someone who did.

Raise your standards and stop allowing this because until you do it won’t stop and you’ll just be frustrated and resentful and think it’s just the burden of being a mum. It isn’t.

What was his response to rightly being called a selfish bastard? Hope he did nothing but profusely apologise.

Are you able to go rest now he's up?

No we don't

Well I certainly wouldn't have if my DH had been that much of an arse.

They'll take what you'll allow.

Get him up right this minute so you can rest.

Does he not understand that you are growing both of your baby in your body? That he’s putting both you and the baby at risk with his behaviour. You’re on pre eclampsia watch - he should be treating you with kid gloves.

I don't. At 3am this morning I nudged DH and told him the baby was crying 🤷

He’s a lazy, selfish prick for sure but why more babies if you know he’s a lazy, selfish prick?

Baffles me too when women have multiple kids with men like this.

I did attempt to but he acts dead to the world, and yeah I know but as mums we just get on with it don't we

Not in my house we don't. I wouldn't stand for it and it looks like you've made a rod for your own back and are now reaping the consequences of that.

Going forward, before you have the next baby, I'd tell him things have to change and if they don't, you show him the door.

Let yourself be treated like a mug and be walked all over and people will do exactly that

I did attempt to but he acts dead to the world, and yeah I know but as mums we just get on with it don't we
Nope. I’d get on with it if I were alone, but in this particular scenario, he’s slept, you haven’t, he’s not pregnant, you are, you make him get up.

And there's your big mistake "as mum's "
nope don't accept this. He's a Dad so should be equally responsible.

OP, pre-eclampsia can kill you. If he's not prepared to look after you bugger off to your Mum's or a good friend so you can be looked after.

You're baby's mum, not hubby's. He's not acting like a man but a spoiled brat. Baby yourself and your child, not an adult.

Again, is there a reason you are reviving zombie threads?