Birth certificate help and advice

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Me and my now ex partner spilt during the time I was pregnant as I found out he was cheating on me. However, we agreed to be amicable for our baby.
During our relationship he was very sly and lied a lot but I let him walk all over me as I thought I loved him and never wanted to believe it.

I am British and he is Nigerian, during our relationship (3 years) I never met his family as his dad was very traditional. He never really spoke about his family.
However, I gave birth just under a week ago and I went to his parents to take the baby to them and they were very pushy with having him circumcised which I do not want done and taking him to Nigeria. They also were telling me he has to be christened they did not ask, they were telling me. I was not comfortable with this. My ex said nothing.
I am now very worried about putting my ex on the birth certificate as I feel as though they will go behind my back, I completely understand he has a right to be on there- but I am really worried as I was made to feel very uncomfortable and as if it was just a child of their family and not mine. I don’t not trust my ex, he does not care about me at all and I feel like he will do things even if I disagree.
What would you do?

Here, I don't know, maybe it would still happen without the mother's consent.

It both could and would.

Sorry, OP - I think you need to be prepared that if he has unsupervised access your little one will return to you circumcised.

So it would be a fat no to him being on the birth certificate and a fat no to unsupervised access from me. Agree with the comments everyone has said about getting a passport.

I'd also be saying that I cheated on him, and that the child probably isn't his. You already know that this man is sly, a liar, emotionally manipulative, has a history of bullying you, and will put his/his families wishes over yours. I'd be doing everything I could to protect my baby, including damaging my own reputation to do so.

This^

It’s very difficult as not adding him on the birth certificate or giving the child his surname would be seen as a huge problem and may cause him or his family to not want to be involved with the child at all.

That sounds like a bonus!

Op is there any way of keeping them all away as being a danger to your son?

Remember that the UK doesn't do passport checks when leaving, so it's up to check in staff to ensure that children aren't taken out of the country illegally. I've travelled with my children on my own many times ( they are mixed race and don't really look like me) and I've never been asked to show proof of parental responsibility or the father's permission.

Re circumcision, I'm sure that this is arranged quite easily if they really want it. Don't take him back, supervised visits at your house only and give him your surname.