My in-laws have always been trouble, falling out with each other and us. It's one continuous loop of drama, hurt and stress.
We have had pretty much no contact with my in-laws (mother in law, sis inlaw & bro in-laws) for around 5 years. Occasionally someone gets in touch and things blow up between myself and DH because I just can't handle the stress of them. DH wants contact with them but I do not, he won't go see them without me and I don't want our girls dragged into it all. So I'm the baddie. Its his choice not to go and I have made my choice based on years of manipulation and the anxiety and stress I feel. Bro inlaw text DH over the weekend wanting to meet up etc I've said I'm not interested. Am I supposed to put my mental health aside for my DH and his family? It actually feels like PTSD. Looking back over the years it was awful with them. I'm still getting problems because of them due to the situation with DH! How am I supposed to move on from this? I'm trying not to be unreasonable but I really can't face them, not without it causing me physical and mental health problems. It has seriously affected our relationship because DH feels I should support him but I feel he should support me. It's a big black cloud hanging over us.