To think this is odd regarding parenting.

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Nearly 5 year old. Split when he was 18 months. My ex works shifts I'm 4 days sociable hours. We've got a pattern of custody when he goes to school. We'll see how it goes lol
Anyway for the past 3.5 years ex has had child one day a week whilst I work and the rest of the time will have him maybe 1 to 2 nights a week. At times he hasn't stayed in exes house for 6 weeks a time! When he does weekends it's one a month so can a good few weeks in-between and his weekend consists of Saturday morning to Sunday night.

When I have our child he occasionally sends a message asking if hes OK but that's all. I find the whole situation odd it's like he can only be arsed on his terms.

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YANBU but it’s more usual than you seem to think. Lots of parents are only interested “on their terms”, when it suits them, rather than looking at what’s best for the child. Unfortunately no court in the land can force a parent to step up, and from the other parents position, it’s better for YOU and for your child, to accept that there are some things that you just can’t change no matter how hard it is and how much you might wish it was different, and get on with your lives as best you can. Concentrate on being the best parent that YOU can be, don’t worry about what your ex does/ doesn’t do. If he persists, the likelihood is that your child will work it out for themselves when they are older.

I always forget men's jobs are more important than womens and their social lives too🙄

Mine forgot his youngests birthday today its literally tattooed on him (he rang to confirm it with me the tattoo artist was...surprised at this) you literally cannot force any parent to care about there child