Always out out

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My partner and I welcomed our DS 5 1/2 months ago. I’m the main care giver on maternity for a year with the other half back to work after a month off.
Now at his age, being bf and the fact he only cat naps there’s not much down time for me during the day and feel like the weekends are our time as a family and the chance for me to have a helping hand and adult conversation.
My partner has recently been to a gig then stayed at a friends after (even although she lives an hour away and the gig was in our home town), has a music festival that will see her away from Friday - Sunday and will no doubt be broken on return, a hen the following weekend, then a colleague’s wedding that again she will be staying after despite a bus coming back to our town at the end of the night and has also taken on extra shifts at the weekends not all ready out.
Am I being unreasonable to be slightly pissed, I seem to be it all the time and the only one that has made life changes now we are parents.

What has your DP said when you've brought this up with her?

Just that it’s a busy time. I’ve asked that she get home sharp the following day post wedding/hen and all I got was I’ll see. I’ve asked that she at least make a conscious effort to get home sharp from work but all bar one it’s been DS and I on our own.

No that's crap. When is your downtime? When do you get to disappear for a weekend?

It is crap but it does sound like a lot of these things are out of her control in terms of timing. I'd maybe ask her to be more thoughtful when accepting invites for future social events. Id also be expecting some reciprication in terms of down time

Did you both want the baby? Sorry if that's insensitive. Just wondering if carrying on with social arrangements that keep her out of the house are avoidance.

You asked her to “get home sharp”? You actually said this?