To leave and go home

[Endoworrier]

severe endometriosis pain last night morphine didn’t work was pacing up and down crying in pain. Took myself to a and e where after an hour I was seen and given some pain killers. I was told there would be a 4 hour wait to see the doctor I said I would have to go home to lay down as I hadn’t slept all evening and it was now 3 in the morning I also couldn’t sit comfortably in the waiting room chair for 4 hours while crying with pain. I discharged myself. Family member thinks I wasted a and e time by going

Unless the pain relief wasn't something you could get at home you did somewhat waste A&E time

If you can go home to rest you didn't need to be there and could have waited until the morning

NHS is in a sorry state. You did not waste A&E, unfortunately you have to be at deaths door or critical to be dealt with in a timely manner.

Personally I agree, if it was that horrid you should have stayed to be seen. If you can discharge yourself to go home to sleep did you need to go in the first place? Could you have waited for the GP this morning? I’m not trying to minimise your pain but if it was that horrid they’d have either seen you sooner, found a bed/wheelchair or admitted you. Surely you knew you’d be in for a long wait?

It's all a bit of a muchness really.

What were you hoping for at A&E? If it was worth waiting for then you would've stayed.

I sympathise, truly I do. When I had pancreatitis, I was told I had a choice between a quiet makeshift bed on the admission bit, or a chair and some morphine in A&E. And it was crappy. It took 14 hours for me to be admitted to the surgical ward (and that was one the shorter timeframes from hearing peoples stories on the ward).

BUT I stayed because I knew I needed to be admitted, despite having been up all night following an endoscopic procedure that morning.

Was a bit of a waste of time, probably. Does it matter, not really. You acted as you thought best at the time.

i can’t get the pain relief At home so it was worth it for that I did try at first and make a comfy spot on the waiting room chairs but I couldn’t And I kept crying in pain so I went home. Where I cried on the sofa but definitely felt slightly more comfortable I eventually fell asleep from exhaustion. All they can do for me T the moment is offer pain relief as there is no cure for me I’m currently on lots of meds trying to get it all under control but it’s not really working I have a second private consultant appointment soon.

Endo is completely shit and you did manage to get some stronger pain killers so all in all worth while for that. At least you have a private consultant appointment booked so maybe that will be the start of getting it under control. It took 18 months of NHS appointments before I went private to sort out my endo so I can see why you went home. If the seating in the waiting room was making the pain worse then I can see why you went home.

My endo is "under control" and I wear a TENs machine every month because it is like I am in labour pain wise. There is no cure, just management.

I feel for you. I have endo and have gone back and forth about an ambulance a number of times to get access to morphine when the pain was so extreme that nothing else touched the sides. You didn’t waste their time. Anyone who says that clearly doesn’t understand how severe and unbearable the pain can get. I have passed out from it before. Lots of sympathy here and hope you can get some more long-term relief soon. Do contact Endometriosis UK if you need support.

You didn’t waste their time. You were dealing with a high level of pain and you sought help in your desperation. That doesn’t mean you have to sit there all night.

People discharge themselves from hospital all the time. The fact they choose to leave does not mean that there was no reason for them to be admitted/have surgery/etc. It ultimately just means that after a time they feel they’d be better off at home, all things considered.

I hope you’re feeling better.

I hope you are feeling better soon

I understand other posters point of view about going to A&E and self discharging but I had endo and adeno too and there were several nights I contemplated calling an ambulance because I just could not cope with the pain anymore. I never did but my god even the memory of those nights can make me cry. I was either vomiting down the loo or lying in the bath; curled up on the floor was my transition between the two. It was like that for hours at a time and it went on for the better part of 25 years.

I do hope you find an effective treatment soon. Endometriosis can be an awful debilitating illness.

Who is saying you wasted their time? you got pain relief, which you needed. And then you decided not to use any more of their time and left.

Everyone makes their own decisions based on pain levels - no-one else can have a full picture of your pain limits and needs.

I'm sure many people in A&E played more of a part in their injuries than you have (alcoholism leading to other injuries, breaking bones playing sport, etc) You are entirely blameless in your own issues.

You have my full sympathy, and you didn’t waste anyones time. I had endometriosis undiagnosed for seven years . The pain was indescribable. Hope you are getting treatment now.