Ttc and new job?

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Sorry for double posting, but I posted this before in conception and didn't get much traffic.

Basically, I have wanted to start a family for a long time but never been in the right place and I'm still young. I'm 30 next year and feeling ready now to start ttc. My husband is excited as he's feeling ready too. But would it be unfair to start trying right as I start a new job? (I start my new job in a few weeks). I'd qualify for their mat pay so that's great, but I feel some hesitation to start a new job and then tell them two months later I'm pregnant (hypothetically I could get pregnant straight away, obviously I have no idea how long it could actually take).

Anyway. I'd appreciate everyone's opinions on this. Thanks!

Leave it six months, like other advice above. You need to make your mark in your new job

Wow thanks so much for all the comments and definitely mixed opinions here.

I'm so sorry for those of you who have mentioned losses and fertility struggles. I think that must really put things into perspective. And I really appreciate you all sharing.

I still don't really know whether I want to wait a little, or go for it.

I think once I've started my role it will become clearer. It seems like a lovely supportive place during interview.

I think I'm leaning towards waiting a little while, just for some stability. But maybe only a few months. Just so I can get to know the team and management a little.

That sounds a sensible compromise OP.

I certainly don't think you should put your other plans on hold for a new job. But equally so I wouldn't want to run the risk of potentially dealing with morning sickness and early pregnancy symptoms along with learning a new job role and getting to grips with a new company which can be exhausting in itself.

I'd hang off for just a couple of months.

Whilst you never know how quickly you’ll conceive I’d at least get through the probation period first. The first trimester absolutely floored me, I was lucky enough to only have nausea rather than full blown sickness but the tiredness was like nothing I’ve ever experienced before. No way would I have wanted to navigate establishing myself at a new job whilst feeling like that.

I'd want to have worked there for a while before starting TTC. Mayne it is just me but despite loving my world and always working really hard, as soon as I got pregnant, I lost interest in work. I worked during my first 2 pregnancies and obviously I still worked but my focus and my effort wasn't the same.

Typos galore! maybe and work bot mayne and world

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This. I had debilitating nausea for three months. I WFH during this time. My boss was genuinely happy for me to do that even though it inconvenienced him, but that’s only because I have worked v hard for him for a number of years. Had I got pregnant straight away, we would never have built the relationship we have, it would have been ruined before we’d even started.

Yes, it’s your right to get pregnant straight away, and MN is always v ‘meh, I’d just do it, you go girl’, it’s such a shitty attitude to not give a damn about how the ramifications of your ‘doing as you please’ has on others.

I don't think you should hold of ttc as long as you can cope with the 'guilt' you are feeling if you do feel pregnant quickly and it's not going to cause you undue stress.

My DH and I had complications and it took us nearly 5 years to have our DS (via IVF in the end) so if you are ready don't hold off unless you WANT to, not that you feel like you should!

Exactly this. Why would you plan your life around your company?? A decent employer understands that maternity leaves happen, in the grand scheme of things 6-12. Month mat leave is nothing anyway.

for what’s it’s worth I ttc when I started a new job, 3 miscarriages and several years later I was pregnant and had my baby. At that stage I had been with them for 3 years. Never put your life on hold for others. Good luck!