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AIBU?

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to be upset?

16 replies

mumzyof2 · 20/01/2008 21:05

Have already posted in chat, but am putting on here too.
My parents have recently split up, after nearly 30 years together. Yesterday was the final day before their house no longer belonged to them - it got sold a few months ago and my mum moved out a few months ago. So me and dp were helping my dad move out of the house Id grown up in for 20 years, so it was pretty emotional, plus Im 26 weeks pg, and very tearful, so it really was a crap day.
Anyway, we filled up my car with stuff and took it to the mobile home retirement park where my dad is moving to. I parked the car (in a car park space!!), and helped everybody move the boxes and things into dads mobile home. Five minutes later, a lady knocks on dads door, and asked (very politely) if we had parked a car out front. I said I had, and asked if it was in the way. She said it wasnt but her husband wanted me to move it. Anyway, I walked to the car park, with my 3 year old, and some old guy, who was about 65 had parked right behind me, and was pipping his ca horn constantly. As I was walking over (I was smiling, Im not a rude person, honest!), I said, Im sorry, am I in your way?
He said, "Look, look, what this?!" And pointed to a yellow line on the ground. What it actually was, was a disabled space apparently, however, there was no disabled sign, just a very faded, and extremely badly marked out yellow line, instead of white. I said " Im sorry, I didnt realise." He said, "Why? Are you blind aswell as ignorant?" I said "No, I just didnt know, Iv never been here before." Then he called me stupid - all infront of my 3 yr old. Then I said to him, "Well, I am 7 months pregnant, I didnt realise I had to park on the A6 and walk all the way here." - The A6 being he main road running past the site. He said "Well you shouldnt going lying around in peoples beds if your worried about getting pregnant!" I was so shocked. My eyes started welling up, as I was so teary, and with dads house and everything, I was a quivering wreck, and just said to him, "You are very rude.", but not in an angry way, more of an upset way, as I was very upset. And he said, "And your ignorant!"
I put ds in the car, and burst into tears. I was so upset. He really didnt have to be so nasty or personal. So when Id parked the car, I noticed he'd snapped my back windscreen wiper too!! The nasty old man!
I know they arnt all like that, but he was so nasty and bitter, there was really no need for it.
Anyway, rant over, I just needed to get it out of my system, because Im still so shocked that somebody could be so nasty to a complete stranger.

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PavlovtheCat · 20/01/2008 21:09

yes, report it as a crime. Criminal damage, that'll put the wind out of his sails a bit.

MeMySonAndI · 20/01/2008 21:11

I'm fuming in your behalf! what did your dp and dad said?

beansprout · 20/01/2008 21:11

He sounds vile. Maybe he was having a bad day too but that doesn't excuse him laying into you like that.

The windscreen wiper is a step too far though so I would take some action about that.

YANBU!! Hope you are feeling better today.

MeMySonAndI · 20/01/2008 21:12

Agree about reporting him to the police, if he can get so heated for this he is a danger to society.

poppy34 · 20/01/2008 21:19

poor you - mumzyof2 - as if you hadn't had enough that day.

You do need to report him to the police and to whoever runs the park - breaking property on your car is too far.

and YANBU!!! I'd have cried too -esp to be that horrid in front of your ds

mumzyof2 · 20/01/2008 21:19

D was livid, and went back to find the man because I was sobbing my heart out, and ds kept asking why the man was mad at mummy. but he didnt find him. dads neighbour said he was a grumpy old git.

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mrsruffallo · 20/01/2008 21:20

He is obviously insane- what a nutter

lazarou · 20/01/2008 21:31

That is dreadful. Once when I was pregant I had to go out with dh to drop something off at the solicitors. I was really stressed out and upset that day anyway. Dh parked the car next to a pub and while he went to drop off the letter, a taxi pulled up in front of the car and an old man and his wife got out. The old man (and i'm not kidding, he looked like a right psycho) came up to my car and was looking in at me and on my windscreen for ages. My ds was in the back, so I locked the doors. He then went inside the pub with his wife. That scared the shite out of me and afterwards I was really angry.
It's horrible isn't it? However, don't allow it to ruin your day completely. He has to live with himself, imagine that! No wonder he's miserable.

Kimi · 20/01/2008 21:32

So is being a nasty old c* a disability now.
I would have punched the old git if he had spoken to me like that.

Your poor dad having to live with such trailer trash.

normajean · 20/01/2008 21:38

I,d have ripped his f@ckin head clean of his shoulders, the son of a bitch. you poor thing, no wonder you are upset, and poor little dd having to watch! I would go to the police and I would report him to the site manager, you may find he has countless complaints already. try to not let it hurt you too much, you have already been dealing with alot of heartache.

LynetteScavo · 20/01/2008 21:39

Poor you! That's horendous!! Things always seem so worse when you are pregnant,as well.
I too would be fuming, and planning my revenge!

MeMySonAndI · 20/01/2008 21:40

And to see that I erased my message where I asked for his address to go and puncture all his car's wheels and smashing his windows...

After reading the OP I was ready to join the mafia to have him shot!

normajean · 20/01/2008 21:41

LOL well said kimi

stripeytiger · 20/01/2008 21:42

You poor thing, how horrible for you, on such an emotional day. I really feel for you, it must be very, very hard to cope with your parents' breakup after all those years.

Give them both plenty of support as no doubt they will need it, but look after yourself too and good luck with your pregnancy xx

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