Day off from being a parent?

[Crimea]

DH works full time self employed so chooses his hours. I work for this business two days a week and the rest of the time I look after DS1. DH job is fairly physical and he does work hard. He has finally got some weekends free so this weekend he wanted one day off where he could just do absolutely nothing.

at first I supported this but then I started feeling it was a bit unfair as I don’t really get days to do nothing. Since DS birth I have once had a day off where I went to a spa which was lovely while he was in nursery but otherwise I am quite full on with either working or our son.

it turned out that DH did do some work related things this morning anyway so I’ve been left feeling like his big day off was more like a day off from his wife and son. He came home and had BIL round and got a takeaway and put a film on, no thought made for DS or I then he offered DS some rice just before I was about to serve the meal I made for us.

I just feel that he can be quite selfish…but I also know everyone needs a day off now and then. Please tell me if I am BU!

i don’t think the issue is him having “me time” but the fact you haven’t had any. It’s important for both of you to have that time either together or alone.

Just make sure you have as many days off occasionally too!

Yabu

Everyone needs time off from work and parenting

You need to make sure you both get equal time off

Just pick a day every month that you want some child free time and book it in with DH.

Tell him that next weekend you get a day off. You'd have to go out though I suspect because I bet if you stay at home he'll find a reason for you to do it all.

He ordered takeaway and didnt check if you wanted any? Thats bloody selfish. And he shouldn't get time off if you dont.

I think the takeaway part is very selfish. I don’t think it’s unreasonable for anyone to want/have a day off but as others have said, it has to be fair.
Have you booked one in for yourself?
I’ve been awful in the past at getting time in for myself even with DH’s encouragement. Then I do it and am so pleased I have!