Neighbours toddlers

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My neighbours have two young children, one who is 2 and the other 3. Every day when it's nice weather, they have them out in the garden. The past few weeks though they've had the kids up and out in the garden from early morning, until very late, often until 10.00pm. The kids are screamers anyway, which I don't mind much, but when they're tired, they scream and cry very loudly and the neighbours don't take that as a hint to get the kids in and put them to bloody bed! AIBU to think it's a bit neglectful keeping young children up when they're obviously very tired?

I don't think it's unreasonable of you to think they're being neglectful, but not sure I understand he point of the post.

Have you spoken to your neighbours?

Hell is other people’s parenting. I happen to agree with you OP, I’d take mine inside to wind down when they started behaving like that. Why inflict that on them, myself and my neighbours?

Nothing you can do about it but you have my sympathy.

This would do my nut in. YANBU. I suggest either ear plugs or VERY strong and pointed words.

Another reason for hating summer....

Our neighbours are the same! Their daughter (only just turned 3) goes to bed past 10, out in their garden all day, screams, has tantrums and have now got a huge pool which sits right outside of my sons bedroom window 😡the dad is so loud and clearly has no boundaries with his daughter! Past 10pm is an awful bed time for a 3 year old, no wonder she has tantrums!

roll on the winter! They are making our lives hell!

Not sure it's the best idea as sun cream only protects for so long.

My son is 4 and has 2 genetic conditions which causes other problems for him & he is on sleep medication off his paediatrician yet this still doesn't work, he will wake up sometimes at 11pm until 1am and then again at 3am for the rest of the night. My daughter is 6 something horrendous happened to her a few weeks ago and she is scared to sleep because of nightmares, and do you know what makes it 1000x worse the anxiety for me 24/7 panicking about my neighbours even though it's beyond my control my poor children don't choose to be awake all night. You can't just say the children your all talking about are just being disobedient and refusing to sleep on purpose. I have cried myself to sleep many times exhausted through lack of sleep, maybe spare a thought to the exhausted parent/parents.

We have neighbours like this a few doors away. Kids are out in the garden all day every day in this lovely weather. I love to hear kids playing but this is constant screaming, crying, shouting and whinging until at least 10pm at night.

I’m really sorry to hear about your children, of course I understand that there are other factors involved in certain situations and I appreciate that. I can safely say that’s not the case with our neighbours daughter, it’s just lack of respect for others around them.

I don’t think you should feel anxiety about you situation, I am sure if you spoke to your neighbours about your worries they would understand, I know I would.

i just can’t tolerate when lazy parents leave their children in the garden till late and expect the rest of the neighbourhood to just put up with the screams/whinging, as soon as my son becomes loud I bring him in, it’s not fair on the rest of the neighbourhood.

The problem isn’t the children being awake though (for most children that would be an issue but as you say everyone has their own circumstances) - the problem is them being awake and screaming in the garden until 10pm etc. if your children are awake and inside then there isn’t much you can do! If you feel truly anxious you can always ping your neighbours a note to explain the situation. I’ve had comments before about my children’s footfall waking the neighbours circa 5-6am. We have carpet so nothing I can do. I can’t, as the neighbour helpfully suggested “get them to wake up later” 😃 It caused me a bit of stress initially but when there’s nothing you can do you need to let it go

It is not neglectful in the real sense, no.