to not want Dh to watch porn

[ineedapoo]

Only soft but I still hate it

YABU i dont see the problem as long as its not in place of a sexual relationship with you

Um. I hope I did not confuse making sweet, sweet love with wanking!

Sorry, I got a bit confused what wantslots was alluding to.

Gets him to stop bothering you, myself I don't want that but many do.

Even those who don't have a problem with porn and are happy for their dh/p#s to watch it, how is she being unreasonable for not wanting him to???

I don't have a huge problem with porn but I'd prefer DP not to watch it, that's my prerogative surely?

What would be unreasonable would be the OP going off ehr head calling him a pervert etc because of it, but not just disliking it, you can't help the way some things make you feel.

VS the OP is asking whether she is being unreasonable not wanting him to watch it?

So we are answering that question.

If you dont like the answers that may come then dont post

Dh told me he wanks in the shower sometimes and I was devastated.
I don't even ask about porn, but I guess I wouldn't mind. The minute he tries to put a paper bag with a photo of Pamela Anderson glued on over my head during sex, I may change my position!

If I don't like the answers don't post?
Who died and made you MN police?

I'm amking a point, a valid one, that isn;t based on porn itself, but her feelings which IMO are bloody important no matter what you think about porn.

Just because you don't see a problem with him watching it doesn't mean she is urneasonable to feel that way herself.

I think each to there own, i don't like it and i don't really need it to be honest but if thats what floats my dhs boat then so be it. You wouldn't be happy if he told you that you couldn't watch something, if you have a man in your life i think it's just something we have to live with.

You are not unreasonable to feel that way but it may be unreasonable to expect him to feel that way after all he is a man!!

I don't have an issue with porn

so would never stop anyone else watching it

yes I think yab ( a bit) u

anger management anyone?

I think it's pretty normal, but understand why you feel uncomfortable with it.

That's a difficult on isn't it? there's nothing actually wrong with it, but you just don't like it, so should he stop? is that reasonable?

Not sure TBH.

Anger management???
My original post was perfectly calm, it was you that got your knickers in a twist about me posting.

Jeez, makes you wonder why you're so touchy on a porn subject.

If it interferes with your relationship - ie it makes him treat you differently, want you to do things that you don't want to - then I think porn is a problem.

To be honest, I think it is a problem anyway because it degrades women and makes them into objects. [dives for cover]

VictorianSqualor

Love the idea of feeling 'touchy about porn'

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I think it's quite normal for men to want to look at porn, BUT for some reason I still don't feel comfortable with it.

In this case would it be reasonable to ask him to not doing something which is actually normal just beacuse I don't like it?

What if I didn't like him going out with his friends, or somethng else vaguely comparble, which is within the realms of harmless and normal, but for some reason I didn't like it.

How far can you take that in a realtionship?

Can you go out one night a week for a while to do a hobby or something and then dh's porn watching need never trouble you

Certainly could've worded that better!

what happened to the OP? Come back! We won't hurt you!