To think the neighbours should have said something?

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I'm a single mum, just me my daughter and my dogs in the house. My neighbour two doors down got burgled the other night. I only know because I seen the CID at her house and then when my ex was picking up our daughter on the way home he said he got talking to the woman who's house was broken into and she told him.

I'm a bit worried about this to be honest and am putting some preventative measures in place. In fact the morning after the break in I had noticed my back gate was open which I found strange as it's always kept shut for my dogs, but I thought no more of it.

However, AIBU to be upset at the fact that not one of my neighbours thought to knock and let me know? Being a lone woman in the house with a child?

I get on fine with all my neighbours, no issues and say hello. If it weren't for my ex getting into a conversation with the woman (he will literally talk to anyone) then I'd of been none the wiser. If I was broken into I would certainly let my neighbours know to be extra vigilant.

I would certainly tell all my neighbours in the hope they might have seen something and to hope they would be more vigilant in the neighbourhood. I'm surprised the police didn't call round.

YABU sorry, they're probably too busy sorting insurance and stuff out and a bit shaken up to think of the neighbours atm

YABU

You're not the main character in their lives. Only in your own! They've just been burgled have some empathy.

I totally understand that but not even saying to another neighbour could you let people know? I find it odd

However, AIBU to be upset at the fact that not one of my neighbours thought to knock and let me know? Being a lone woman in the house with a child?

Yes YABU. Why have you waited to put preventative measures in place?

This is something I wouldn’t have thought of tbh but then I don’t chat to any of my neighbours so wouldn’t go round and tell them

I'm sure they have far stronger priorities right now than fretting about a "lone woman with child".

Being a single parent doesn't make you mot vulnerable to burglary.

I would, however, have expected the police to knock a few doors either side or to put a leaflet through the letter box about it and advising about patrols etc. I worked the burglary unit for several years - that's fairly basic policing and community reassurance.

YABU, they probably had stuff stolen and a lot on their plate, my first thought wouldn’t be the neighbours.

Usually round here the police make house calls asking for Information round neighbours houses

They had pressing things to do.

I'm surprised the police didn't

YABU. Normally the police will do door to doors advising of the burglary, asking if people have seen things.

Surely they are more concerned with the fall out having been the victim of crime, rather than fretting over the poor lone woman with child down the road.

Yabu
Some people might do the courteous thing and tell the neighbours but for some people it may not come to there mind. No need to take it personal

Okay I am being unreasonable. Thank you.

IMHO They should have mentioned it to everyone and maybe they will or are expecting others to pass it on. If they don’t mention it, perhaps they don’t want to alarm you. I hope you’re ok. My thinking would be that they (burglars) wouldn’t be as silly as to target same area in a close time frame but that’s probably not helpful to you. Sending hugs.

I know where you are coming from OP. In my area most people would put it on the community facebook page to make people aware

You probably didn't get burgled because of your dogs.. burglars don't go near houses with dogs too much noise.

So they wouldn't knock your door to tell you.... Which is what OP thought they should have done.

I agree though that in my area things like this are on the local Facebook groups in a few minutes.

Except statistically single mothers are substantially more likely to be victims of burglary? Eg. www.college.police.uk/guidance/neighbourhood-crime/nature-neighbourhood-crime

OP I completely understand your anxiety. I hope it comes to nothing. At the same time I can see why your neighbours might not have had 'warning neighbours' very high on their to-do list so soon. Horrible experience for them.

When my house was broken into, notifying people a few doors down was really not the thing that was uppermost in my mind. I was kind of preoccupied by the fact that people had, you known, broken into my house, been through all my private stuff, ripped half the cupboard doors off their hinges and stolen things of massive sentimental value, and by having to figure out insurance claims, locksmiths etc while also dealing with my own anxiety over what had happened. People have their own shit to deal with and their world doesn’t revolve around you.

Ha, Clearly you don't live in London!

hilariously brutally honest!
Sorry op, I can understand you're worried but I honestly wouldn't tell my neighbours or expect to be told if they've been burgled. But I live in a major city maybe if I was in a sleepy little village it'd be different.

Why is it hilarious? OP is anxious and feeling vulnerable, with some justification. I don't really get what's funny here, for anyone involved.

I’m sorry but rather than going round and talking to them when you found out, finding out if there was anything you could do for them and see if they’re ok you’ve come to mumsnet to have a verbal tantrum because they didn’t prioritise telling you? You’re absolutely in the wrong.

Sorry but YABU, I have been in your neighbours situation and the last thing on my mind was to go knocking on the neighbours doors to give them a heads up.

Kind of busy being in shock, consoling upset children, sorting out insurance and speaking to the Police. However the Police did knock on a few doors to see if anyone had heard anything but might have been just the houses that had security cameras.