To feel like I’m just waiting for the next day and the next…

[NotKatherineRyan]

I don’t know what’s wrong with me but I just feel so stuck at the moment… and dare I say it, bored?!

As soon as I’ve finished work every day I just seem to ‘wait’ until I can go to bed and start the next day. Weekends are just like one long waiting game, especially as DH generally works all weekend. I love my work but I don’t want my whole life to revolve around it.

No DCs in my life yet and most of my friendships have fizzled out since the pandemic. I’ve searched for local groups and communities but there’s nothing around where I live. The loneliness isn’t helping.

I feel so unstimulated (if that’s a word?!) and my brain has so much energy and nowhere to put it. I have about a dozen different boxes of new hobbies I’ve tried but nothing sticks or keeps my attention for long.

I feel like I’m just wishing my life away. Not even sure what my AIBU is, just want to know if I’m alone in feeling like this I guess.

I feel much the same, including having a DH who works at weekends. We do have some stuff going on locally but I have social anxiety and also don’t really fit in where I live. Some close friends have moved away and attempts to make new ones have not gone well.

I’m trying to make little plans for things to do by myself - just simple things like reading a new book, trying a new recipe or decluttering a drawer.

Sorry you feel the same @applegrumbles - I also relate to the social anxiety thing, which is why even if I could find groups local to me I don’t think I’d be able to go anyway.

Wish I had an answer for us both!

Are you over 35? If so it’s inevitable according to Mumsnet.

Haha no @PurpleMarie - just turned 30. Maybe I’m an early bloomer!

Can you take yourself on some nice day trips?

We’re trying to save so am not doing anything remotely extravagant, but it can be nice to do things like take myself to a free museum.

Could you join a local hobby/club? Most places have a local Am-Dram if you're into acting?

Sorry just remembered the bit about social anxiety and maybe getting up on stage might not be the first thing you want to do!

Although there's always other bits and pieces you can do within that context (like behind stage stuff)

Sounds like anxiety, perhaps try yoga classes to tire you out, sleep better and allow your mind to get inspired for new adventures x

This is me at the moment, so bloody bored. I look forward to going to bed, can’t wait for the neighbours kids to go back to school, and for everyone to go back to work so I can get a parking spot. And the weather just makes it worse. Can’t wait for a lovely frosty morning.

It might be worth reconnecting with your old friends. It could be easier than starting from scratch. I'm sure others will be in the same boat. Don't take it personally if they don't reply. If they be do reply then great.

God OP I could have written your post. I'm 32 and feel exactly the same. I feel like I go to work, come home, shower and eat, and then just wait to go to bed, feeling bored and unfulfilled.

Next day, repeat. Things are generally better for me at the weekend though as DP is usually at home and we go out together but during the week I feel like my life is passing me by.

I have tried having hobbies, but I have either not really gotten into them properly, or been too tired to fully commit. My job really takes it out of me mentally so I rarely feel like I have the energy to meet friends after work or go and see a relative.

As we're pretty much in the same boat I don't really have any tips other than to try and make your weekend count. Force yourself to go on a day out or see someone. It helps break up the monotony for me.

Shake things up and go on a silent meditation retreat. Or have some life coaching?

Would you consider couch to 5k?