Would you find this condescending

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I have just had two babies in 2 years.
My dh does a lot of sport, football, golf etc on wkends and I am a sahm as on mat leave and facilitate these days so he can socialise, excersize etc and be generally healthy and happy.

I am breastfeeding so can't really go out without needing to pump or feed the baby. Anyway I told him I'd like a break at some point too and he's like 'it's not my fault you chose not to use formula love' or 'if you want to do something just arrange it love' or if I ask him not to do something he's like 'yes I heard you love'.

I know it sounds silly but it's the constant use of 'love' that's upsetting me as opposed to even the content of what he's saying. AIBU? Does anyone elses partner call them love like this? I can't figure out if I'm overreacting or not

I think it’s context. If he was saying “I think you’re an amazing mother, love” it might not seem condescending.

But this? This shit absolutely is condescending and not just because he’s calling you love. He sounds like a selfish prick.

Yes, it does sound a bit dismissive. He's not being constructive or trying to help - can he not feed the baby if you express the milk and leave it with him while you go out?