7am - window and curtains open

[Selfishpartner]

Picture the scene...it's 7am, albeit on a weekday but he's not working today and I work from home and can start anytime I like.

He tossed and turned all night - he does this thing where he will lie on his back and bend his legs, then they gradually drop, he feels it and brings then back up again.
Hard to explain but it's all while he's sleeping and goes on for ages, like a little exercise session. Wakes me up and the only way to stop it for a while is to push his legs gently down again which stirs him slightly.

So basically - I've had a shit nights sleep and am grumpy. He gets up to pee, comes back in and opens the window wide, leaves the curtains open and gets back into bed.

Between the traffic and the birds I can't get back to sleep so I get up, he's gone back to sleep.

Selfish/inconsiderate/dickish of him to do or am I over reacting because I'm exhausted?

This is just the latest in a long line of similar things he's been doing over the past 6 months and I'm finding it more and more difficult to ignore. Talking to him doesn't help.

Yes, I think we might be at the end of the relationship - or I need some therapy on my own to learn to chill the heck out about things!

The problem is there are little things but also bigger ones and I find it hard to drop the small things I think because the bigger ones are there too. I don't know, it's tough to explain.

Will look into a knee support cushion though.

Sleep elsewhere. My windows have been open for days, can't remember the last time I closed them and I live on a semi busy road

would living room sofa be your friend re a nights sleep. although I think this isn't real issue

That's really interesting - I quickly googled the condition and he did have a spinal cord tumour removed a few years ago, ever since he's had twitchy feet and I'm sure I never noticed this scissor legs thing before the op.

Maybe I should get him to see the gp just in case there's a medical reason for it.

He's not being unreasonable because he's probably not aware of any/much of that. It just sounds like you're fed up with him. Wider problems!

Whats so frustrating is if my partner told me I was doing something with my leg that was keeping him awake I would look for solutions I would be actively involved.

Sorry posted too soon, so yes I think he is being unreasonable, and nobody can think its ok to open the curtains when someone is trying to sleep.
Honestly he sounds really selfish.

You dont need to chill out.
Thats exactly what mine told me for years!
Actually what I needed was not to get 2 hours sleep and night and have a MH breakdown as a result.
What helped was knowing he wasnt doing these things on purpose ( ADHD) and putting things in place to ensure both our needs are met.
Separate rooms-complete and utter bliss.
He didnt like it but it was that or divorce.
We have a very set routine and he has all sorts of things in place to support him ( inattentive)
Consequently our relationship is much better.

I think the leg thing in bed and the rest are separate issues, though.

And lots of small niggles on top of some bigger ones really doesn't sound like a lot of fun. What are the positives in your relationship? Are there any? if they don't outweigh the negatives perhaps the relationship has run its course.

Would you be open to couples therapy?