Sad about signs of ageing in 30s, shall I get Botox?

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I'm sure people are going to tell me, "You're being ridiculous, wait until you're 50/60" and I do get that, but I also don't want my feelings to be invalidated.
I've got faint 11 lines and crows feet which are worsening. I do wear high SPF every day, sunglasses most days, never smoked, don't drink, no sunbeds etc. But I suppose ageing is inevitable in spite of all this.
I've been using tretionin for 2 months and have zero results so far, but I'm told it can take several months to work.
I don't feel I look as fresh as I used to, and my eye area is a bit hollower.
I know it's not the end of the world, but I don't feel as confident as I did in myself 2 or 3 years ago.
A solution would be to get Botox, I've had it before and it worked well. I have an offer where I can get 2 areas for £100.
However there's a constant societal pressure to be 'saving every penny' especially at the minute.
Just this feeling that it's wrong to be spending money on anything that's non essential, and that's wrong in itself, especially with working full time.
My partner says I don't need it and could never justify spending £100 on it, but then I feel like there are always more attractive and younger looking 23 year olds around the corner.
I mean I'm doing it for myself first of all. Should I get it?

Not one single person has ever looked better after any cosmetic procedure.

Just wait until your 50s. Make peace with the ageing process now, for your own good.

Do what you feel truly comfortable with.

The only red flag in your post is “but then I feel like there are always more attractive and younger looking 23 year olds around the corner.”

If that’s your real worry, no treatment will help.

Dont have fillers though. They don’t dissolve, they migrate. Fillers are what end up making people look waxy and wildersteiny.

That seems quite cheap, is it definitely legit and performed by a medical professional? If yes, go for it if you want it. I think it’s a great preventative for the 11s area.

That is such bollocks, lots of people have cosmetic procedures and look fantastic and a lot better than before. It’s just that you only notice the ones that aren’t good.

Thanks.
I do have filler in my nose to make it straight but sadly it never seems to last as long as the advertised 9 months.
I do think Botox can be done subtly and you can't always tell it's been done.
I'm not intending to do my lips, cheeks etc. It's just these lines that bother me.
It's just a special offer that is on atm but I'll look further into it

Put on a good quality sunscreen factor 30 and above on your face neck and back of hands . Sun causes wrinkles but only surgery will sort out sagging skin .

I've been wearing SPF virtually every day since I was 19, on all those areas but I still got those lines. I think they're more smile and frown lines which I may have got in spite of SPF?

Give it a go OP. You’ll get people telling you it’s hideous and looks ridiculous. But done well, you can’t tell. And if you don’t like it, it’ll wear off. I have it twice a year and feel better for it. Im 34 and I’ve been having it since just before 30.

I'd go for it if you can afford it and have been happy with it before. Why not? The main thing is you're doing it for you.

Load of rubbish. Of course they have, that’s the whole bloody point.

TBH my elevens are the only things I have done. Nobody guesses it because I’m so low maintenance otherwise (no hair dye, tan, acrylics, facials, lashes or anything at all really). I don’t even touch the horizontal brow lines. It’s just the elevens (from years of not wearing my glasses enough - oops) because I think they make me look angry and so tired. So I do sympathise, and you can ask them to go easy.

I feel like there are always more attractive and younger looking 23 year olds around the corner.

What does this mean?

Also, Can you afford it?

I think a bit of forehead Botox works wonders. Nothing more annoying than people telling you not to look worried when you aren't. Whether you can afford it is a discussion to be had with DP, and worrying about 23 year olds is a bit of a warning that you are fully into the youth is everything, mindset.

I reckon go for it if it makes you feel more confident and if you can afford it. It's awful feeling self conscious and crap about yourself, and if there is an easy fix then I would definitely go for it (providing it's safe etc).

Thanks I appreciate the support and encouragement.

If you can afford it then do. Don't if you're going to have to forgo bills or food or fuel, obviously.

My best friend is 34 and had Botox and fillers recently on her forehead and around her mouth. I met up with her a few weeks later and just thought she looked like the best version of herself. I couldn't tell what she'd had done until she told me, just thought she looked fantastic.

That's young to start imv - could you do exercise to make you slimmer, straighter (posture), healthier diet to make yourself feel better, study, learn a language rather than Botox to make you feel better and improve your confidence.

What’s the thing about 23 year olds though? You think your DP will go off with a younger woman? Or you want to be 23 forever?

I'm 30 and have noticeable forehead wrinkles and a crease between my eyebrows.

I get Botox every 6 months and it completely erases them. I look a lot younger and less tired.

I felt the same nervousness about doing it but honestly if it were a face cream that worked like magic you'd use it. In my experience it's definitely been worth it.

I've already started learning Arabic 😁 it's hard though! You're right it does give me a different focus. i will try and work on my fitness too which may also make me feel more positive and take away from the lines

but then I feel like there are always more attractive and younger looking 23 year olds around the corner.

And there always will be.

You pumping stuff into your face will never change that, so you might as well get used to it.

Ultimately, unless you die first you are going to age, and this will be reflected in your looks. You can stave it off for a bit, but all you’re doing is setting a high bar that will be increasingly difficult to reach, no matter how much time and money you spend. The harder you try, the more impossible it will become to maintain. As a PP said, you might as well start coming to terms with it before you’ve spent thousands. The more you invest in it, both financially and emotionally, the more it’s going to hurt in the lobg run. I’m not suggesting you should just completely give up- I haven’t- but needles and knives and the level of risk that goes with them seems like a reasonable line to me.

Literally from now until the day you die, there will always be people more attractive than you, people that are younger than you, and people that are generally better than you (and some may be all 3 at once).

It doesn’t make sense to let their looks dictate how you feel about yourself cause you’ll be forever depressed. There’s nothing you can do to reduce the signs of aging aside from Botox or filler, especially as you’re already healthy. It’s your choice whether you do it or not, but you won’t look 23 again and you should spend a bit more than £100 to lower the risk of complications from a “too good to be true” deal

Aging is unavoidable. You might as well get used to it! Tbh it's a bit odd you're worried about societal pressure to be saving every penny, when it's societal pressure that makes people have Botox. There's no reason not to spend your money on what you want if you can afford it, and it sounds as if you're already into spending it on cosmetic procedures, so why the hesitation this time? I'm 50 and wouldn't ever consider it, but it's your money.

I know that £100 wouldn't seem much now but by the time I'm say 50, it would have amounted to thousands and thousands on procedures.
Obviously celebrities can afford this, but I'm on 24k a year and part of me does think that money could be put elsewhere.
I would love to just accept the ageing process, but I don't know how.