I currently work until 8.30pm one day per week. No scope to change that, although I could potentially end that commitment in December, but certainly not before then, and if I did, it would have an impact on both my contract (I would be down on hours which cannot easily be made up elsewhere due to the nature of the job), and on the business, as the service I provide at that time would then cease to be on offer.
I'm separated from my DC's dad. Since the split, on that day, he has collected them from the childminder, brought them home, then stayed here and left for work the following morning (his choice, he could get the train back to his if he wanted, but here is more convenient for his current job).
He's currently job hunting, and casually mentioned yesterday that he can no longer guarantee to look after the DC on a Wednesday any more.
AIBU to think that as my work commitment is pre-existing that he needs to find a job which fits around his current commitments? Surely it's not fair that he does whatever suits him with no thought as to whether the DC will be provided for?
A major reason for the separation was his persistent assumption that he could do as he pleased and I would automatically pick up everything else. That wasn't so bad when I was a SAHP, but when I went back to work, it became intolerable. I'm not sure whether the residual frustration from our relationship is clouding my judgement, or if I'm justified in telling him that he needs to be available to care for the DC on that evening.