To feel hurt and embarrassed by this

[Lunakitten]

I feel as though I’m being used for sex. He only messages me when he wants something. Sometimes at midnight. Last night he messaged me trying to dirty talk so I responded and we spoke for a bit. I replied back but he stopped replying so I presumed he had fallen asleep. His response to my ‘sext’ reply this afternoon was ‘Lol’

I just feel really embarrassed by this now and feel like I’m nothing more to him than just someone to see or text when he’s bored or horny I feel like a joke to him

The sext reply was last night but he didn’t read it till the afternoon and his response was just ‘Lol’

Stop sexting him then?

I wouldn't have anything more to do with him and would block him completely.

Booty call. Block.

Christ on a bike lovely get rid block, delete whatever just get rid.
He is an arse. A goldfish would have more brains than this idiot.

The only way YABU is if you continue any relationship at all with this utter waste of space.

Block him. Save yourself the anguish.

Block. The embarrassment will fade. Live and learn, as they say. If you are worried about bumping into him, change up your routines a bit. Should anyone ask about him, say, he wasn't the man I thought he was. Move on and up.

You're focusing on the hurt and embarrassment you're feeling right now, so those feelings grow and you feel crap about yourself and then carry on sexting him. Feeling crap and sexting him are connected. So its hard to break the cycle.

Instead, focus on how you WANT to feel. How you WANT to see yourself. Strong, confident, respected, with strong boundaries, a woman who knows her worth, and is proud of herself... focus on those qualities you can cultivate instead and feel those feelings grow. Adopt that identity. Step into that personality. Be that woman.

Then block him. Forever.

@Takenoprisoner great stuff.

Agree.

Why are you feeling bad about yourself because he's being a dick?!

Tell him to bugger off, OP. He sounds awful!

Just block. Doesn't sound like it would be a loss. YABU to make yourself feel bad over something that is easily fixed. His last reaction tells you everything you should need to know.

Just block him.

“I just feel really embarrassed by this now and feel like I’m nothing more to him than just someone to see or text when he’s bored or horny I feel like a joke to him.”

Yep so why is this even a ‘thing’ for you to post on mumsnet? Why have you got such low self worth that you haven’t moved on already? You don’t exist to be some random bloke’s wank sock. Just block and move on.

People can only take advantage of you if you allow it. Stop allowing it.