To be hiding in my hotel room to avoid a fellow guest?

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Am away on Holiday at the moment with family but not DH- he stayed home to look after pets.

Kids have made friends with another family's kids while we've been here so have been chatting with the parents in the evenings and by the pool. They live fairly locally and fly home the following day to us.

Last night the husband asked me if he could have my number. It wasn't a platonic request. I said no, that I was happily married and didn't think it was appropriate especially given his wife was 10 foot away (not that it would have changed my mind obviously!). He seemed totally nonplussed.

Tonight I took the kids out and then we came back to the hotel room because I feel really uncomfortable around him but equally know his wife will pull up a table if we were there. I have another 3 nights- how do I not spend the next three nights holed up because of some would-be-cheating arse?

I don't want to tell my husband- he's already annoyed I'm away without him and this would just be the nail in the coffin!

I thought it meant confused, etc. Now, I'm nonplussed about nonplussed...or am i?

OP, you should ask his wife for her number. After the hol. tell her what he did then block her.

Nonplussed means confused, seems like the correct usage in the OP?

what a sleaze bag OP. On a family holiday! Don’t hide though, enjoy the sunshine with your family.

It’s means so surprised that one is unsure how to respond. It’s less neutral than confusion.

But I take your point that you interpreted it as he was confused that she thought it was anything other than innocent whereas I was interpreting it as he was shocked that she had turned him down.

Nonplussed has two meanings. Confused or just not bothered. Got to admit I’ve always seen it where it’s the latter presumably in literature as not many people say it. It’s a modern useage apparently and an odd one as it means the opposite! The second meaning is more used in America. I’m very ashamed I’ve not been reading the correct meaning ie the original one.

Nonplussed does mean confused, perplexed etc

But in North American usage it can mean the opposite - unperturbed, unconcerned.

I think in the states people use nonplussed to mean unbothered but in the UK it means confused / surprised. Weird one word can have two opposing meanings!

I love words that work like that, like fast and cleave.

OP you've dealt with him well, give him no further thought, enjoy your holiday.

Just be cool monosyllabic.
If wife asks tell her. No apologies and make it clear how uncomfortable he made you feel. She might know.
You've done nothing wrong he's obviously a serial cheater.

What a fucking creep. Pretty sure he'll stay away from you now you've turned him down but don't be afraid to tell the wife why if she asks what's going on. He deserves to be dumped in the shit.

Although he's probably already told her that you came on to him which is why he doesn't want to be near you now. They usually do. Scumbag script.

Absolutely don't hide in your room! Carry on chatting as normal if that's what you want to do or just laying there reading, it's his bad, why should you feel awkward!

Don't hide away OP. That would be giving him the power, which he would enjoy if he felt he had discomforted you. So carry on as normal, enjoy the sunshine and ignore him. Great advice from HaveyouanyDream above re. the wife.

I wouldn’t ruin my holiday for anyone else. Go out and have fun. If asked, we need some family time so will be eating alone. If pushed, your husband asking for my number was disrespectful.

Yep, carry on with your holiday. Avoid sitting near them if you can, but if they approach you only engage with the wife and be obvious about it. If it’s clear to him that you’re blanking him, he won’t want to encourage further interactions for fear of how they might play out. He’s relying on you to maintain normal social conventions and not blow his cover, but he can get to fuck with that. You don’t owe him nice or polite, and it’s not on you to keep his secrets for him.

dont bother telling his wife while that could turn nasty and he will deny it and it will spoil your holiday.

Not long to go then you wont have to see them again.

Ah, I see the confusion! Yes, I had read it that he was utterly bemused she’d thought he meant he was coming onto her.

Why do you have to stay around the hotel? Can't you go to the beach and eat out?

It does.

yes i thought that go to the beach or a day out if you dont want to sit round the pool.

Why hide. That is rediculous really.

Just tell him to fuck the fuck off. Or tell his wife to reign her husband in. Why hide
They guy just asked for your number. That's literally it. Dont hide

If he asks again... 'your wife and I have already swapped numbers'.

Ick!

Avoid at all costs but do not let him ruin your holiday

I think id be rude to them / him and say you're not up for socialising

How did the remaining days pan out OP?