To message this person on Facebook?

[wouldyougoforit]

In my teens - 15 years ago - I had a lovely GP who was very heavily involved with treating my mother (who was in every sense a nightmare of a patient) and got to know her well . I haven’t seen her since I was 18, I’m now 32 .

I haven’t thought of her in years but I found a book she gave me at age 18 a few days ago whilst clearing out my cupboards - book had her full name and GP number etc in the front cover (that she’d written) .

I’ve found her on Facebook and I’d love to send her a message to say thanks - she helped me a lot when I was younger . I’ve since graduated university, moved far from home and have the job I always wanted . A part of that was her giving me the push I needed at 18 .

I’m worried to send a Facebook message might be a but intrusive . She’s retired as far as I can tell but would it be totally inappropriate to send a message to say thanks? She might not even remember me so many years on - or more likely, may not want the reminder of my mother !!

I think you should. Seize the day and all that. If she finds it inappropriate she will either say so or not reply

I think she would be delighted to receive what is a really positive success story.

If I positively influenced someone's life, I would love to know!

I am a medical professional and would absolutely love this message when I retire!

I say go for it. It’s different to those situations where someone is for example contacting an old school bully to tell them how horrible they were and gaining nothing from it.
You have something to gain here by telling someone how much they helped you. You don’t have any pride to lose as it’s all very positive. Even if they ignore you or tell you not to contact them, you still won’t be left feeling like an idiot really.

Awhhhhh do it!!

Go for it, you can always say there's no need to reply but you wanted to let her know what a positive influence she had on your life.

Do it. And update us if she replies. Im sure she'd love to hear from you

Remember though that if ppl are on your friends list they might not see your message. I would add her too

I’ve sent her a wee letter, I’ll update if she replies - hopefully she doesn’t mind ! Thanks 😊

I definitely think you’ve done the right thing.

It sounds like she wanted you to keep in touch so she’d be happy to hear from you.

The worst that can happen is that she won’t reply.

That’s what I wondered when I found her name/gmc number etc written inside the book, if that was deliberate to make finding her in the future a little bit easier !

She hasn’t seen the message as yet, I don’t think, it’s still saying unread . Will report back if that changes, it would be so lovely to hear from her after such a long time .