Ooh is this a parking CF?

[HappyMcflappy]

10+ years lurking… First ever post!
so AIBU?
I have property in a town centre which happens to have 4 parking spaces. I pay a premium for them and for the majority of the time they are in constant use. Sometimes friends will text to ask if they can quickly park there whilst running errands etc which I’m always happy for them to do so. I’m not at all precious if there is a space available and they understand they could get blocked in. However I’ve recently received this email from a total stranger. Absolutely no idea how they’ve got my email address.

“Dear Sir/Madam

I am writing in the hope you can help. I am getting married on (date) at (church). I was wondering you would be willing to allow a car for the wedding to park in a space of yours due to their being no private parking for the church.

If you could let me know.

Kind regards

Bride”

So AIBU to think she’s a bit of a CF? There’s on street parking directly outside the church, three car parks within 1 minutes walk and they’re all Pay and Display. I don’t want to give her a flat no in case there is a special reason she needs the parking. I’ve asked for more details, time and length of stay etc. Also asked if they are happy to be potentially blocked in temporarily as my spaces are a square divided into four formation. No reply yet.

@Society I’ve just reread the email and in the To: part of the email it says to “undisclosed recipients” so it’s been sent to multiple people. My street is a mixture of business and residential all with parking but think offices rather than retail etc. I cannot for the life of me think of any situation in which my personal email along with my neighbours emails would be accessible in the same list. In fact in my road nobody has my personal email, my solicitor is my neighbour but has my business email. I’m not really that bothered about that though. Thinking about it more I think what made me think potential CF was that it was not a personalised email and seeing now that it was a mass message reiterates that.
I did reply straight away asking for more details regarding time etc which she hasn’t responded to so I won’t ask how she got my email address unless she gets back to me.

Always astounds me what people get their arses in their hands about on here. Or that people need advice as to whether to get their arses in their hands about it.

I don't think CF at all.

She asked. You want to say no, so say no.

I'm the kind of person that would have said yes, so she'd have struck it lucky. She didn't know what kind of person you'd b or what your response would be, might as well ask. She was polite.

I'd politely ask her how she got your email address though

@Daysy Oh I just thought to myself this is a lighthearted potential CF thread that I could finally be brave and post my first thread about as I’ve spent all day in the bathroom with Norovirus and it’s been rather boring. Definitely no arse in hand re: wedding parking but definitely entire arse down the toilet. Over the years I have wished I could have posted about the serious things in my life regarding my husband dying and our baby loss prior to that and the subsequent childlessness is my thirties but I wasn’t quite robust enough for any potential negativity… I first came onto Mumsnet when I was trying to get pregnant 10 years ago and although my life hasn’t turned out how I’d hoped it has always been a comfort to me to read these boards daily. Again thank you to the people who weren’t mean and accompanied my pondering in regards to whether this was a CF or not. It was fun to have a thread of my own.

I’m sorry for your losses and hardships. I’ve found generosity of spirit to be a great healer. Let the bride have the space.

You’re much nicer than me, my initial reply would have been “how did you get my email address?”

Do you have anything to do with the church? Could they have passed on your email address (although they definitely shouldn’t).

My concern would be if you said yes, the church might tell future couples that it might be worth asking you.

Just ignore any arsey posts OP as it says a lot about those people that will go out of their way to be mean.

I don't think you're unreasonable to ask for more info at all. She's maybe not quite at CF level but I do think it's a bit cheeky to ask. Church parking can sometimes be almost at school run parking madness levels but surely this isn't the first wedding that's happened at that church!

I don't see how she's cheeky. She asked really politely and you can just say no! If she'd parked there without asking - that would be cheeky.

Shy Bairns Get Nowt as the saying goes. She asked, you're free to say yes or no.

I'd be more interested in how she got your email address and would assume a friend of yours passed it on. I got an unsolicited WhatsApp regarding something to do with a product my employer sells the other day, but the sender did explain how we were connected at the start.

People renting out car parking spaces is pretty standard. Since you have 4 maybe she thought you might be open to letting her rent a space?

Doesn't sound cheeky, just sounds polite... And she asked, she didn't just do it.

It seems like a sensible thing to do if there's no parking bear the church. If she's sent it to lots of people and even half a dozen come back and say OK, that would probably make it worth while.

My only issue would be how she got your email address.

Sorry for all the sadness you've experienced.

I don't think she's a CF.
She's just asked.
If you don't want to, just say no.

Agree she's not a CF - she's just asking. Hope you feel better soon x