Me and my teenage son were invited to a baby shower of his cousin.
Backstory: My son was abandonned by his father, but his aunt stayed in contact with us. She used to take him over night so he can socialise with her (older) chidren, my son's cousins. Now that they grow up, this stopped obviously.
We all haven't seen each other in at least a couple of years if not more. I suggested several times to meet either in a restaurant or at home, the aunt would tell me that she would get back to me, but I wouldn't hear from her. I know they were busy with travels and what not, however several times she posted pics on facebook that they were having a family dinner, so I guess not that busy.
All this is fine, but I declined the invitation to the baby shower as it's far away. But the aunt is now insisting telling me how this will be a great opportunity for the cousins (our childdren) to connect. Me and my son are feeling that in a place with lots of people when they will be busy with the event, it's not really a place to connect and it's not really a type of an activity for a teenage boy anyway. I like my son's cousins and wish they were more connected, but I feel that if they don't have time to see us in a more private setting (resto, etc.) , then a baby shower won't change anything.
AIBU?