To tell my manager she can’t share my baby news

[Gherkin14]

A couple of weeks ago I gave birth to my dd…this was following a complicated pregnancy and previous loss at 27 weeks in 2021.
my manager has always been very supportive so I messaged her to tell her baby had arrived safely, she asked for picture which I shared and then she asked if she could share this with one of the senior staff group WhatsApps at work. For context I work in icu in a large hospital so there’s about 40-50 people in this group-and not to sound petty but not all of them I like and would not be sending a picture of my daughter to. I haven’t shared anything on social media either as I don’t feel ready to do this after our loss last year and a tricky pregnancy so feel it’s justified to say I’d rather not? Or am I just being silly?

I'd just something along the lines of is it OK to hold odd for a bit in telling everyone?

*off

You’re not being unreasonable.

My organisation had a bi-weekly news letter to update everyone on work related matters but they’d also announce births, marriages, retirements etc.

When I had my baby I told my manager that it was not to be shared in the newsletter. I’d had many miscarriages and those announcements used kill me. I didn’t want to inflict that on anyone. I told her that the people who I wanted to know would know and anyone else didn’t matter. She had no issue with that.

As others have said it's a personal choice. But not something I'd personally be bothered about if I'm honest.

Sharing baby news with a photo is a pretty standard thing in the places I've worked.

Everyone will be happy for you although most won't even reply/comment and it's all forgotten about very quickly in reality.

When I was pregnant I put a picture of my scan on Facebook (only family on there and private settings) but it turned out my manager somehow saw it?? And questioned me about being pregnant. I was 11 weeks at the time and not ready to tell work. Then once she knew, I told another manager who told all the team ( without asking me!!) I was furious

Sorry posted too quick meant to say fine not to share picture totally your call.