To ask what advice you’d give to your younger self? Life lessons etc

[Essexgalttc]

What advice would you give to yourself if you could go back in time?

Leave the job now

Not much actually. It's all too complicated, if I hadn't done x, which was a mistake, I wouldn't have got y, which has been amazing.

Probably 'don't try and get your 83 year old mum to move'. In my view people over 80 are rarely in good shape for a big move.

Always pee straight after sex.

No, you DON’T suit a pixie cut.

Don’t let yourselves put on so much weight, it’s so much harder to get it off as you get older.

Give a crap about yourself. Like actually care what happens to you. Its ok to set the bar higher. You can do better than one night stands and drunken hook ups. Find someone who genuinely seems to like you and doesn't have so much baggage you can never compete.

Don't get a perm
Don't marry the twat
Don't stay in the same town
Don't listen to what anyone says, do what you want to do
Have fun ffs

Never financially rely on a man (I have taken my own advice on this thankfully)

You are not fat, even if you think you are and, in fact, if the slimming magazines you buy are always showing people who are delighted to get to the weight you are now (8 stone something fgs!) then you really do not need to lose weight

Your mum doesn't always have your best interests at heart

See a counsellor much earlier than you think you need one, ditto paying into a pension

If you have a bad feeling about any man, don't ignore it.

Say fuck off more often

Trust yourself and your own instincts; they are usually not wrong

Just this one.

Keep saving and buy that home.

Life is for living, don’t hide away from the world when it all goes wrong.

Working hard when you are young does set you up for a happier and more balanced mid life, but you don’t actually have to work as hard as I did to get there.

Who you are and what you do professionally are not the same.

Never miss an opportunity for love, whether it is a kiss from your child, a hug from your parents, joy and laughter with your friends or any other form that arrives. You will never remember that call you just had to take, but you will always remember the time you laughed so hard that you were nearly sick with your pal.

Keep your expensive nail polish in the fridge,

Stay away from cheese and exercise more

To my 25-year-old self - even if you don’t lose weight, do whatever you can to stay the weight you are. You may hate your figure now, but you’ll hate yourself even more when you are nearly 60 and morbidly obese.

To my 10-16 year old self - tell the bullies to fuck off. Say it loud and often. If they don’t stop, tell the school. Tell your parents that the bullying is making you so lonely and miserable you are having suicidal thoughts. Then tell the bullies they are nasty, inadequate excuses for human beings.

Not every situation, good or bad lasts forever...

Also your not as fat / big as you think you are .. in fact you'll look back at photos and see that actually you were fairly attractive!

Shag around a bit more because once you're married you'll be having sex with the same guy for the rest of your life.
Sounds obvious but i didn't think of that.

Stay away from men.😀

I would tell myself to not be afraid of being alone.
To stand up for myself, against all of them, parents, partners, in laws
To study harder, value the opportunity to achieve
To stop trying to please everyone to the detriment of my own life
To save more
To walk away from the ones who hurt you, harden my heart and seek freedom
To stay single (ties in with being scared to be alone)
To realise not everyone is good and has your best interests at heart, not to be so trusting,
To believe in myself, I never did until recently,
To let go of the toxic people, live for myself.
I feel sad writing this, I have 2 wonderful children who are adults now but I have been abused by a lot of people, parents, partners, in laws, friends. I often wonder how my life would have been if I had the courage to walk away when I was 18, not cling to the 1st man I met who I thought loved me, fulfilled my potential earlier..