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to have hoped he'd be up by now?

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Thomcat · 20/01/2008 12:42

DP went to a funeral yesterday. Some guy in the music industry that he knew, not a close mate, but anyway, he was out of the house from 9.30am until 4pm. Came back and did bugger all until bedtime when he put them in the bath. Did bugger all again until he went out again at 8.30pm. He got into bed at 4am (he was out DJing). He's still in bed now.

I'm breastfeeding a 4 month old and dealing with a 6 yr old who has SN's so is more like a 2 year old which happens to be the age of her other sister.

My back is killing me as it does when you lie in bed breastfeeding for 4 months and lift and carry two other kids.

DD1 and DD2 are like twins in many respects as they are at the same development stage and bicker constantly over toys - 'my rabbit' 'no my rabbit', 'no MINEEEEEEEE', 'MINNEEEEEE' cue screaming and 1 of them charging into me crying.

I feel, not tired, it's well beyond that, I feel utterly drained.

Give or take the odd disturbance he's been in bed for 8.5 hours now. I feel like leaving him just to see when he'll decide that he's had enough and anyway do I really want him down here just sitting round in his dressing gown drinking tea for 2 hours before he gets in the shower and then asks what we should do about food?

It's at times like this I wish I wasn't breastfeeding so I could go out and leave all 3 with him and see how he likes it. But he'll get up and DD2 will go for a nap, DD1 will watch a DVD calmly and DD3 will have a feed and go to sleep as well. So annoying.

And as he knows he's left me to do too much on my own while he a) managed to escape the house and b) sleep, he'll constantly hug me as a way to make it all ok which will just irritate me and make my back hurt evenmore!

Rant, raaaah, grizzle, maon, whinge, whine, agggghhhhhh and so on.

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SoupDragon · 20/01/2008 12:46

Feed the older 2 blue smarties and send them up to wake him

Shame they don't make blue smarties any more... (although I do have a contraband box on top of the fridge for just this kind of situation)

sockmonkey · 20/01/2008 12:46

oh, TC. cant you put the other two in the bedroom with him?

Thomcat · 20/01/2008 12:49

LOL at sending DD1 and DD2 up. They did go in there briefly and he just had the duvet and pillows over his head and still seemed to have not really noticed terribly that they were kissing his leg! I took them out though.

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Freckle · 20/01/2008 12:50

Why don't you take DD3 and go to friends' for the day? I know it won't be the same for him as he'll only have 2 to deal with, but at least he'll have to sort out food, etc.

bozza · 20/01/2008 12:50

Yes I was just thinking that the answer was to send DDs 1 and 2 into him, get DD3 sorted, go out and find the cafe/restaurant/pub with the most comfy chairs for breastfeeding. Take a mag or book and order yourself something lovely.

Do you think you would do that?

FoghornLeghorn · 20/01/2008 12:51

I sympathise totally TC although slightly different circs. DD1 not sleeping well, DD2 never sleeps particularly well, DH is ill so instead of getting my well deserved lie in this morning I was up at 5:55, just like I was a 4.30 yesterday. Not making a pregnant hormonal lady particularly happy atm, and I have a banging headache

Thomcat · 20/01/2008 12:55

Hmmm, I could go out and sit in Cafe Nero or Starbucks for an hour, but not sure I really want to tbh. Pathetic but feel so achy and tired and bit low that I don't fancy getting up and getting out iykwim

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FoghornLeghorn · 20/01/2008 12:56

Wake him so he can deal with the girls and you can go rest for an hour ?

wantslotsofbabies · 20/01/2008 13:02

Tell him to get up. Feed the children, muffle them up and TELL Him to take the children out to the park/ a walk.
The bed should still be warm for YOUR rest.

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