Why does this annoy me?!

[Embarras83]

so people who say I did x with my friend. Why does this annoy me? I have two friends who do it a lot.

it could be like ‘I was out with my friend last night and we did x y z’ why not just name your friend? Or no I didn’t go to that concert because I decided to go to cinema with friends and family.

or ‘my friend and I had dinner and a few drinks last night’ why not say your friend’s name?

or we are going away with ‘friends’ or my friend’s son has said he wants X for birthday - well our kids are in the same school so it’s highly likely I’ll know who ‘friend’ is.

I don’t get the reason for the anonymity?

Do you know their friends? I find it odd and a bit self absorbed when people name the friend and the other person doesn't know who they are. Much more natural to just speak generally imo.

Well relatively close friends so yes I would probably know their other friends - even if just a name

It annoys me more when someone says another person's name and idk who they are. It's like name dropping but I have to ask who the person is

I understand what you mean. In certain situations the 'my' sounds possessive almost and that gives me the ick.

I knew a girl who was 'best friends' with my stepsister, and she always referred to her as MY friend. So she would use an expression when talking about her like:

"Me and my (heavy emphasis on the 'my') friend are going to the cinema on Saturday"

I thought she sounded silly, jealous and possessive.

@BobbitWorm i think that’s it. It just yes gives me the ‘ick’ i literally only know these two friends who do it all the time!!

oh I went for a coffee with my friend. Well why you telling me? Or I’ve got a night out with my friends tonight etc so why you telling me if I don’t know your friends and I’m not coming?!

But why would they be trying to hide anything? What’s the perceived motivation here? Is it that you think they’re going out with a mutual friend and you’re not invited? If they’re going out with someone you don’t know that well, or at all, I don’t see why you
care. I really can’t imagine your friends sit there carefully rehearsing their answers in their head to avoid naming someone you don’t know from a bar of soap anyway.