Traveling to see a friend...

[Spankybug]

My friend has asked me to visit this weekend. I don't have a car and therefore travelling up involves trains, but the trains are severely limited because of strikes this weekend. My plan was to travel up Friday after work and back on Saturday afternoon. Its now looking like I can only travel back Sunday mid morning due to strikes - there are no Saturday trains. Sunday trains are also severely limited, alhough he has offered to drive me home on sunday if there is no train. I wanted to relax on Sunday at home and back takes almost 2 hours each way. Since he moved away from the town we both lived,
around 5 years ago he has hardly ever visited me - probably about 2/3 times total, although he does have a 3 year old child which makes things hard. I have been up over 10 times to see him. Am I being unreasonable to not go as I want to relax on sunday and he cannot control this situation as I am traveling??

Just tell him you can’t make it this weekend and reschedule. No big deal.

Yes, this.

Am I being unreasonable to not go as I want to relax on sunday and he cannot control this situation as I am traveling??
This sounds weirdly confrontational. Are you always this bitey with each other?

Well obv yanbu to not go somewhere you don't want to go

I have to say tho, you see each other in a twice a year, so going up after work, 2 hours travel so getting there for 8? And then leaving what, 2 at the latest Sat seems a bit short.

I'd want the whole day together so would look at leaving at earliest after Sunday bfast. Two hours on a 🚆 and then you can chill all afternoon.

Whats the custody arrangement with the 3yo? Could he come to you with her?

Just don't go, OP, as you clearly don't really want to. Use the strikes as an excuse if it makes it easier.

Rearrange for a non-strike weekend.

Don't go if you don't want to go.

Just tell him that with the train strikes it’s too difficult and you’ll rearrange.

Although it doesn’t sound like you’ll be there long anyway if you want to go home Saturday.

Rearrange because of the train strikes then, it’s not difficult op

Don’t go, OP. You don’t want to; that’s all the reason you need. I’d phone him this morning and you’ll feel a lot better.

Also the heat.