December baby having fake birthday

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So DS2 was born in December and I just feel like it's so hard for him to wait an entire year between presents, and then of course to get birthday and Christmas so close together, especially because his sibling gets presents conveniently around halfway through the year.

Has anyone done like a fake birthday in June time for December babies? Or is that mad? Or any other solution?

My friend does a half year birthday (Christmas eve baby)but mines a week before Christmas and I like to celebrate mine in December 🤷‍♀️

My birthday is between Xmas and New year and what I can say is when it came to big milestone birthdays it was impossible to have who I wanted with me because of family Christmas travel.

Many friends have suggested having a mid year daphne day but I've never done it as it feels fake/falso.

I have two very close friends whose birthdays are in the same week and we understand the importance of making a fuss of each other.

My twins were born very near Christmas and made a bigger deal of Easter egg hunts and included presents that we would a lousy present in December, ie scooters etc. Now 18 years old and they still get one but make them work harder to find their presents.

I know someone as an adult who had this as a child - they carry it on even now and it's totally bizarre imho. As my very wise aunty said, he was overindulged as a child.
My niece is born near to Christmas and her parents move her birthday, but usually to earlier in December. That way she can have a birthday party and it doesn't get all caught up in Christmas stuff

Had a boxing day baby, she celebrated on her half birthday at her request once she was old enough to understand. This meant no presents at all on her birthday as all the family were onboard with the fake birthday. She preferred it, as did I as the cost was spread. Probably wouldn't have bothered if it hadn't been so close to Christmas though. Now she's an adult she's reverted to her real birthday

I have a friend I’ve known since I was a teenager with a late December birthday. She celebrates her half birthday instead, from when she was mid teens to now (early thirties).

Her reasoning wasn’t so much about presents, just that her birthday always felt overshadowed by Christmas and she could never celebrate with friends because they were busy celebrating Christmas with their families.

One of my cousins used to get a "half birthday party" in June, he hated it and thought it was silly. (I expect the other kids did too) On the other hand this is outing but I used to get a box of chocolates or £5 to spend on treats for my half birthday, and half a card. I liked that as it was private and funny.

Don't worry about your kiddo, he'll be fine. There are lots of crap times of the year to have birthdays and December (unless Christmas day) isn't the worst.

This is missing the point so much, that I feel it must be purposefully obtuse. Of course people buy their children things throughout the year. But having a celebration and multiple things to open/unwrap etc is not a frequent event. It’s a birthday/Christmas situation.

The twins in dds class have their class party in the summer. Their bday is xmas eve which is the main day here.

My girls had a friend who had a Christmas Day birthday. They used to go to his fake birthday party on June 25th or the weekend nearest. So he got a bit of fuss for his fake birthday.
Nothing wrong with having a fake birthday.

My brother was also a Christmas baby and my mum always made him share my party and as a 6 year old I was resentful that he hijacked my party.

Following army dc birthday is Christmas day. We normally celebrate Nov/early Dec but it's getting harder every year as Christmas starts too early and all weekends are filled Christmas activities everywhere.

My birthday is Dec 25th. I did have an "unbirthday" party as a child as both my siblings have their birthday's earlier in the year (February and May). Having a party on or around Christmas as a child is pretty much impossible as time, events and money gets in the way. As both my siblings had parties for their birthdays my parents did not want me to "miss out" on a day that was all about me....something else Christmas day kids don't really get unless they are an only. When I got to my teens it didn't matter so much though.

My kids are a little bit further from Christmas but quite close, one either side. My birthday is a similar time to dds, pre Christmas.

We’ve all always seen this as a plus as it allows for joint presents! This is probably when you’re a bit older than a baby/ toddler of course, meaning kids can ask for something twice the value as joint (if parents ok with that). I have a beautiful acoustic guitar still that was a joint present in my teens, for instance.

Also means you can have a “mop up” - if you don’t get something you really want for one occasion, you can ask for it again 😁😁

This is all done in a nice way though not a spoiled way. Being glass half full here!

Totally fair enough to do the fake birthday if your birthday is the 25th Dec though!

Well totally fair enough to do whatever you like but just providing a positive spin!

Just to clarify, I would not in any way expect other people to buy DS a present if we did do some kind of fake birthday! Obviously not! But thanks to the pp who called me "grabby" 🤣

And no it wouldn't be instead of celebrating his actual birthday. I was purely thinking of taking some of the money I would use in December and buying something with it in say June. But making it clear to him that it's an early bday present /fake birthday present

DS has an early Feb birthday so I tend to get him a lego set or something in summer if he gets a good school report. He's a teen now so doesn't get loads for Christmas but as a younger child he'd have stuff for Christmas that he hadn't played with by his birthday so always went light on his birthday.

It was never dressed up as a fake birthday though, I think that would be too confusing.

Celebrate his half birthday! Then he can have a celebration in the summer too

What we do is presents at Christmas from us and anyone who wants to give one i.e parents/godparents but for birthday we say books only or money (with presents from us) and then we have a summer/start of the holiday present :-) it's nice as they still get something for their birthday but there isn't this avalanche of presents and then nothing.

I have a 15th December boy 23, he loves has his birthday in that month. Xmas tree & Decs go up the day after and then we all get together again 10 days later for Xmas. He often gets joint birthday & Xmas gifts but he chooses this.
My daughter is April and has always wanted an December birthday!

I’ve got two in December and never had any problem ! It’s fine and I have never thought about doing a different birthday date
i do know of one boy born Xmas day and his parents always do his party in June

I'm a December baby and have always loved it!

My dd is very early January. It's always a bit miserable weather and has in the past limited the things she would like to do for her birthday. For years we always went to the zoo in June as her second birthday treat.

We have a Boxing Day birthday. We used to do party with his school friends after they went back to school in Jan. We would buy things at Easter that were summer based rather than in the middle of winter, so garden toys, beach toys that sort of thing.

My brother is an early Jan baby, I'm summer, so my parents used to give him gifts on my birthday too, otherwise it was unfair to him to have everything bunched up around Christmas 😕

Of all the possible things to do, please don't ever do this!