Having siblings back for playdate

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If you have one child and they go to someones house to play, but they have a sibling should the sibling come back for the return play date too if that makes sense?
For example. Tom is an only child and goes to play with Lucy, but Lucy has a sibling a year younger . When Lucy goes back to Toms house to play should the sibling go too.

Lucys mums said unless her sibling can go on the return playdate its not worth it as she dosent get time to herself and she still has one child at home. whereas Toms mum gets a break as she only has one child??????

Whos right?

I wouldn’t ask the other child; it’s a play date not childcare.
Its a sad point of view really as I quite like the opportunity to have just one child at home to focus on

Are you Lucy's mum? Is this a reverse?

Absolutely this.

Lucy’s mum is a cheeky fucker to think anything else.

Lucy's mum needs a reality check! Tell her you're not a babysitter

Have never ever invited siblings to play dates. Only the actual friend

That's a bit of a grey area to me as the sibling is close in age. I'd probably take both of it wasn't a problem.

Neither. Given Lucy's mum's attitude, you will probably have more complaints and cfery if you have the kid(s) at yours.

Lucy is having you on. Playdates are between the friends, and don't include the entire sibling group plus dog.

If she wants a childfree time she has to arrange simultaneous playdates for both her kids at two different friend's homes; but that's her problem not yours.

I don't think someone is a cf for vocalising what works for them.

If she dropped both off when only one had been invited then CF, if she says in advance that it doesn't work for her I can't see the problem. You can choose to accept or not, which is the opposite of CFuckery.

People only do play dates because it suits them/their children which is no different to what Lucy's mum is doing.

Lucy's mum is beyond cheeky and I would expect her to decline party invites because the sibling isn't invited.

Tbh it probably makes Lucy's mums life harder as she's not got her sister to play with. She's just being honest saying it's not worth it for her. Perhaps she works from home or something so it's easier if the siblings are together. I don't think it's cheeky as she's just stated a fact.

Lucy's mum is only thinking about herself and not Lucy.
I feel sorry for Lucy.

Lucy's Mum should be thinking - lovely, now I can have 1 on 1 time with youngest.

Lucy is a lazy cow.

Lucy's Mum = Cheeky Fucker.

Some of my kids' friends have multiple siblings. I'm not responsible for all of them,

Oops, obviously Lucy is lovely

Her Mum is a lazy cow!

Sod that ds 8 has a friend with 2 siblings.As if!
The parent wouldnt ask anyway. she is a cf.

Lucy's mum is a A 1 cheeky fucker

Lucy's mum needs to arrange another play date for the sibling for the same time if she wants time to herself.

Lucy’s mum is very cheeky for phrasing it like that.

However, I’m in a similar situation with my dc as they are close in age. The youngest absolutely loves playing with different dc when they come over. My eldest includes him willingly and they all have a great time together. Then when the play date is returned, it’s only ever for the eldest and my youngest gets so upset. I find it annoying especially when the other mum says how much fun their child had with both. My youngest is then in tears asking, but mummy why can’t I go and play with so and so also, they’re my friend too. It’s quite heartbreaking tbh but I do my best to do something fun with them at the time their sibling goes.

As a parent that is really hard as I would never ask but it really puts me off those play dates. Those who include both of mine get invited much more often.