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AIBU?

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to wonder why ds was not invited to party of neighbours kids?

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gininteacups · 19/01/2008 23:22

probably being silly but would love some unbiased opinions/advice on this.

Basically, we moved into a lovely little cul de sac in september just gone where there are several families and from more or less straight away we have had various kids from each family in and out of our house to play with my ds (6).

In particular we have 3 memebers of one family approx ages 2, 5 and 6 (two younger girls and one older boy). They come round quite regularly, watch tv play with my ds and are really lovely kids, have spoken to their parents a couple of times when they have called to find their kids and when I have called at theirs to retrieve my ds. Basically have built up a relationship with these kids though their visiting and playing with my ds over the last 4 -5 months.

Today I noticed balloons go up outside the house and ;lots of cars arrive, No invite for my ds was forthcoming. we went out to my mums and came back in the afternoon, lots of cars still there and ds was asking why he hadn't been invited to party.

From my POV I would have definitely invited all 3 to any party I was having for my ds as they are his little play mates at home and he was a little bit upset and confused as to why he wasn't invited. Its possible it was just a family party (although it did not look like it as there were lots of cars) and people looking lost driving round the estate before pulling up outside....but even so.

So AIBU or do you think they were a bit mean....and more importantly I feel a bit miffed now on DS's behalf and not sure how to handle it! Help!

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hertsnessex · 19/01/2008 23:24

maybe it was jsut family?

my boys are 3 and 4 and go to the same preschool. one of them jsut received an invite for a little girls party - and not the other - it doesnt bother me, people have to draw a line somewhere, and i have explained to my 4yo that he can stay at home and do some 'mens things' with dady - so i will get home to find they have 'built' something im sure!

dont worry about it.

cx

hatwoman · 19/01/2008 23:26

do they go to the same school? if not it might have been all school friends. or if it was one of the younger kids it might have in fact been more of an adult party to which they invited long-standing and very close family friends

gininteacups · 19/01/2008 23:28

No they are not at the same school - maybe thats all it is....its just I would have def invited them even if it was just a small family party as he would have gone mad if I hadn't!

Prob just being oversensitive??!

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Scramble · 19/01/2008 23:28

YABU, it is up to them who they invite, perhaps it was all family or long standing freinds, if they all came in cars they weren't just neighbours who knows. But its best not to get all cut up over these things.

Last thing you will want to do when having a party is worry about what all the parents of the children you are not able to invite think. Best to get you child to understand now not everyone can invite everyone to thier parties, same will go for their own parties, or you will have a very big list of invites to write .

gininteacups · 19/01/2008 23:32

thanks hertsnessesx/hatwoman, you are probably right, just wanted reassurance x

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1dilemma · 19/01/2008 23:34

I think your'e probably being a bit sensitive based on the fact that you've just moved there. I'm sure they like you if not they surely wouldn't let thier dcs play at yours!

gininteacups · 19/01/2008 23:36

yep you are prob right 1dilemma, like I say just checking out my paranoia with the level headed mn readers!

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hertsnessex · 19/01/2008 23:37

go and have a glass of wine!

cx

gininteacups · 19/01/2008 23:38

lol hertsnessex - oh dear I really am a paranoid plonker aren't I??

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3andnomore · 19/01/2008 23:41

Yeah, stop worrying...you can't invite everyone to a party and some people have a large family or are expected to invite all teh class of 30+ Kids....

gininteacups · 19/01/2008 23:43

Oh Gawd I feel like a right idiot now....thanks everyone

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