Not paying for childcare this autumn as bills go up

[Essenceandvibes]

I've just had an epiphany.....I absolutely won't be paying a penny for childcare this autumn as bills increase and I won't be made to feel guilty about it either. I can work from home and watch my baby and pick up my 10 year old from school without the assistance of anyone else and if my employer has an issue with it, he can pay an extra £2000 per month post tax to cover the cost of full time help.

Our bills are going to be about £800 a month just electricity and gas alone for our detached 4 bed house, this isn't even thinking about the increase of petrol or groceries.

The mortgage has also gone up a few hundred quid too....childcare and commuting is now a luxury not necessity and I really hope every parent joins me in asking for employers like it or lump it

Shameful the government have let everything get this far, the knock on effects will be huge

@Dalaidramailama

bizarre isn’t it?!

S'okay Lucky, the OP is somehow so good at her job she can not do it and still be a tremendous asset to her company. Or something.

You're suggesting that your employer raises your salary in line with inflation... I assume you don't work in economics else you'd know this would be absolutely catastrophic if employers did this.

@LuckySantangelo35

Incredibly 😂

You're totally right, I can't believe I've never thought about it from that perspective @Miffee

Coming to think about it....there's plenty of ants in the garden right now! Free protein 😁

Can shave off £600 from the monthly household bills in groceries and I can continue to pay thousands a month in childcare and commuting so my billionaire employer can enjoy 40 hours a week of my undivided attention filling out spreadsheets for little pay increase 😂

Oh wow didn't read the full thread, please don't not pay your energy bills, they have the authority to break into your house and fit prepaid meters. If you are struggling contact your supplier first to see if the costs can be spread out over the summer months where we use a lot less energy.

You do realise worked my arse off doesn't come with the right to a big detached house? People always say this like it's something that automatically comes with or deserves financial rewards. Many people work their arse off to just get by, those people aren't any less deserving of a big detached house then you are.

This won't change anything, it won't affect your employer, they don't care. Either they'll fire you or someone else at your workplace will have to pick up the slack. You're not going to give it to the man, you're most likely just going to make some other person's life harder.

Ha I actually voted YABU based on your thread title cause it’s impossible to WFH with a child, I’m trying to do it on my contracted day off and it’s a nightmare!

Having read your following posts I get what you’re saying, my employer has raised my salary in line with inflation so I won’t be joining you but now I think YANBU for your circumstances 😅

This.

Yes, the Keyboard Warrior Revolution 😂😂

The OP will be kicking it off next week with 'CAPS LOCK MONDAY'

Then every second Wednesday in the month, it's 'Type Your Boss To Death Day'.

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Why should we work our fingers to the bone ? Wages are not keeping up with inflation . Living costs are going through the roof with very many families facing difficult financial choices. Should we really just knuckle down and make the best of it in order that those at the top of the pile can increase their profits and reap increased share dividends.

I love it 😂

For a short while I thought this was a serious thread. When she got to the tribunal part I realised it was a wind up.

You can't afford your current lifestyle, don't take it out on your employer.You need to downsize.

Spot on, I think its pretty obvious they are very tight for money otherwise you'd never consider this an option (along with don't pay lol) and lets be honest, saving the sorts of money spent on child care will go a long way to shoring up ever increasing bills from all angles, especially when you've probably based all finances on low interest/low inflation era we've seen in the last 10 years.

Alot of people will be in this boat I'm sure. Best bet is enough of those are around that Truss decides to bring in extra support, though I bet any money that is only to be aimed at the poorest/pensioners/vulnerable and someone in OPs position will jack all.

Good luck. You will find you either neglect the baby or do bugger all at work, or both.

Actually, I am not worried about increased bills. And I live in a 4 bed detached with bills no where as high as 800 a month, averaged out over the year.

Your figures don't add up, or your salary is too low to afford the house. Either way, not your employer's problem.

As a manager, I try to be accommodating to employees with childcare responsibilities. Often I hold my nose and try to be flexible and understanding. But this is taking it too far and not justifiable to the rest of the team who have to pick up the slack. A good manager will have to 'manage' your request. No one is indispensable, even myself. Often it is inertia that stops managers from the hassle of replacing someone. Better the devil you know, as they say. Nothing like a good threat and gun to the head to galvanise a manager to say enough is enough.

Actually it kinda does.....I mean if all those late nights and weekends working away for banks I couldn't stand, £30k in student loans and my whole life spent chasing A*s at school doesn't entitle me to at least a nice detached house as I have a family then really what was the bloody point 🤷🏽‍♀️

If that's the case, we should stop telling kids to try hard at school because by your logic they're only entitled to the bare minimum anyway regardless of their input in life

t's a form of protest to all those who don't quite understand, businesses will start to pressure the government into action if we all do this

Lol. Yeah, its definitely US that don't understand. Good luck there Gandhi, let us know how that civil disobedience works out for you!

IF you do this. Don’t tell a soul. Not even a mum on the school run, not a FB post, no-one whatsoever. Someone could dob you in and you could end up sacked.

Yeah definitely keep it to yourself! People get pissed when you’re doing things to make stuff easier for yourself whilst they have to carry on struggling

"The government has tried to reverse the trend with little success. Authorities spent 153tn won (£106bn) between 2006 and 2018, according to figures from the national assembly, on measures designed to encourage more births. Those efforts include free childcare until the age of five, cash payouts to pregnant women and supporting youth clubs."

That's South Korea but other countries are following suite. See the cash payouts bit?

This is not to look after kids that need help, this is to incentivise people to have them. It will 100% happen here too as our low birth rate is a crisis and our anti immigration rhetoric is stronger than our hating kids rhetoric.

I am confused at your shock and apparent outrage at this. Governments treat whole swathes of society appallingly you must be very niave to think they would draw a line at the infertile.

Gas, electric and water? That is very little and the increase next month is going to be far more for most people, your increase is only just 12% and gas and electric are supposed to be going up by about 60% I thought.