To really miss cuddling up to her

[Feelsautumnalthismorning]

Dd, just turned 4, she’s always co slept with us/me mainly in our bed, dog too 🤣
We've just made her a new bedroom with new bed etc and said she can choose where to sleep..sleep in her new bed or keep sleeping with me, whatever she wants to do. The first night she went back into our bed and last night she slept in her own bed, said she wanted to (seemed sort of nervous/upset about it) but adamant she wanted to. She didn’t even get into the bed all night and just got up and asked to go downstairs for breakfast.
This is all great, buutttt am Aibu to have cried last night and to be sad this part of my life is over 😔
I realise some people may think I’m completely ridiculous..she’s a very happy, independent girl, she’s just always cuddled up at night.

You shouldn't have bought a bed, or bought a double!!!🤣🤣

Her new bedroom is all exciting at the moment, she might come back to yours & id put money on it definitely NOT being the last time she sleeps in your bed!!

Don't other people's kids kick them all night?! I love a cuddle sleep but my god I don't get much sleep!

gawd i feel so bad now - I was so happy the day we got my daughter into her cot after 3 months of me and her sleeping on a mattress on the floor pushed in against the wall haha - i hated co sleeping so much need my own space lolz

Funnily enough university drop-off wasn’t horribly difficult for me. Bittersweet, of course, and a real sense of the end of an era and the beginning of a life away from me (which it was!), but I didn’t cry, which surprised me. It felt right, like I’d done what I was supposed to do and things were taking the course they should. Perhaps because I’d looked at each step of independence preceding it as a good thing, keeping my feelings about it in check, and also valued my own identity outside of motherhood along the way (to try to keep a healthy equilibrium in my life).

I missed some things more when the youngest stopped doing them, and felt the milestones more keenly, in a way, because I knew that was the last time I would go through that stage with a little one.

All that to say to you @Feelsautumnalthismorning and others doing the letting go now. They come back to you as adults and you get to have a whole new relationship with them!

My Mum says after her and my Dad dropped me at uni for the first time they came home, sat in my bedroom and just sobbed together for like an hour. I’m an only child so it was just them. It makes me cry now to think of them doing it!

(On the other hand I regularly have a little sob now at how far away it all seems and how much I’d love to have another go at some of it...I can see with hindsight that I didn’t quite get everything right when they were little)

One of my daughters is still a little cuddle bug. 😊😊

Hopefully it is the novelty and she’ll be back…at least sometimes! I can cope with that, it’s just the finality of it possibly being never again 😩oh god, I’m an emotional mess, ridiculous

I cosleep with my 2-yr-old daughter, and I'm sort of dreading the day when she is permanently in her own bed! I sleep so well knowing she's right beside me.

I carried DD up to bed last night, she's just ten and as I did I thought - this could be the last time I carry my little girl.

They grow up so quickly and it's an endless list of firsts as well as lasts. I often think back to my lovely babies, toddlers etc and I grieve for them. They were lovely little things but I also adore the people they've grown into. It's perfectly normal to look back and miss things.

But don't worry, she'll be back in your bed as soon as you know it and you and DH will have an argument on the landing about who has to sleep in her bed because you're all too big to fit in one bed!

Yes @Bootothegoose it’s a sort of duality isn’t it - you can deeply grieve certain losses whilst also celebrating other aspects and taking joy from development and growth. Neither takes away from the other.

We did exactly the same with DS and I was sad too not to have him there to cuddle any more. Has to happen, though. It's a stage that passes like any other. I had to remind myself of the nights he was squirmy and annoying, because it wasn't always lovely, and I do very much tend to come over all rose-tinted-glasses about things like this

My DD is still little but it dawned on me recently that there's a finite number of bedtime cuddles before she decides she's ready to drop off by herself. I already feel sad about that. YANBU.

And the 'Last time' by Lucy Berry

I cosleep with ds but on the odd occasion he rolls into the cot and stays there, I have to get a hot water bottle and cuddle into it
Just a tip if you struggle to fall asleep!