To miss my bf terribly after 10 days

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I am on a very long family trip away from my boyfriend of 5 months. We are halfway through. I keep thinking of how much I miss him and want to be with him. Is this abnormal?

@USaYwHatNow ugh, I am sorry.

@W00p ... do you think that's helpful? It's just an insult with zero insight.

Well, you wanted to know why 56% of people are saying you're being unreasonable? Pining over someone after 10 days, and 5 months in, is a bit much.

Why would it be abnormal? you are very much in the honeymoon period of the relationship.

Surely its a good sign.

Op how long are you away for?

You have a young child?

Of course it’s normal to miss people. But it’s not normal to think it’s “torture” to not be with your boyfriend. Unless you’re 14.

Me and DH were in a long distance relationship for the the first 5 years we were together. To be fair the first few days are the worst! Then after a week or two you get a bit used to it and you crack ok with life. I can understand that you’re finding it tough. YANBU.

Hoping you're VERY pregnant 😲😆

Will he be home for the birth? It's such a hard time to be apart

So it’s a 20 day holiday? Yes?

What type of holiday?

A part of this could be that you’re not enjoying the holiday because not your cup of tea (to be honest you say lots of sitting around doing nothing, which doesn’t sound like any one’s type of holiday).

I recall your name so know you have a toddler. I wouldn’t think you’d have a huge amount of time to give much thinking space to him, let alone be to tortured!

I think what you describe is perfectly normal for a good relationship.
Not missing at all = bad news, move over
Cannot function without them there = bad news, run for the hills, it will not work
Somewhere in the middle = love

But I spend a lot of dead time here (hours a day) riding in cars etc where I have time to reflect and pine.

this doesn’t sound like a great holiday.

I’d probably be doing a lot of navel gazing if I were you too

Perfectly normal for a new relationship.

Ah of course it's normal! I'm going away for two weeks next weekend and tbh, much though I'm really looking forward to it, I will bloody miss my DP!

@Endlesslypatient82 i have a surly/clingy 5 year old!

This trip is nice, but also largely just a series of family obligations, plus I am responding to work emails. It's not my ideal holiday.

@BeanieTeen to be honest, I have been in several long distance involvements and have always hated it. After a while, it just seems pointless because relationships to me are so much about the daily companionship. Well done to you for persevering.

It really does not sound like a great holiday. This will probably play a part OP!

May I ask why you are on this trip? It doesn't sound like you particularly want to be there?

@legophoenix I moved countries for my toxic ex. Now I am stuck in the UK. I can't afford to visit my family more than once a year, so here we are

Sorry I laughed.

Sorry to hear that -sounds rough. Do you feel obliged to visit them or do you enjoy it?
Do they visit you in the UK?

@legophoenix i definitely feel obligated to see them. I enjoy it, but would rather just see them for shorter periods occasionally rather than using so much energy and holiday for a long visit.

Some of my family will visit occasionally, but others never would, or only once a decade.

It is perfectly normal to feel what you're feeling. You'll 💑be back home soon!