I feel weird about this? Not sure why.

[TheStarsComeOut]

Friend had a couple of people over for drinks and introduced me to her colleague. And said oh colleague knows one of your friends but can’t remember her name - I showed her your Instagram and she recognised her.

I feel weird that at some point I was being discussed with her colleague (who doesn’t know me or that we know someone in common) where she needed to see what I looked like.

I didn’t say anything about this and probably over thinking.

I’m not getting the issue, colleague obvs wanted to know who she was meeting, are you like a secret agent or something?

AIBU seems to be bringing out all the secret spies at the minute. First one doesn't want their photo taken, the next one doesn't want to be discussed in a private setting..

No the way it was mentioned was as if it had taken place awhile ago

People chat about people. Just cos you can’t hear it doesn’t mean it’s not constantly happening. Try not to get all weirded out.

It’s just people talking about people, normal human interaction, I can’t see anything to be worried about.

I can't see the issue here either. Totally normal if you have friends in common.

But they didn't know they had friends in common until the OP's friend showed her colleague the OP's Instagram page.

@TheStarsComeOut she might have been showing her anything. Something funny you posted, your kitten, your new kitchen, a dress she liked of yours, not necessarily talking about you.

I really wouldn't over think it!

Well that escalated…

OP,, i think you should unclench.

This reply makes you seem like even more of a loon. YABU

I sometimes show friends and family social media pages of other friends and family if I’m either talking about them and describing them or if they’ve recently travelled to somewhere I’d like t go and I’m trying to convince DH or kids. So I’m.not seeing the issue. I’m not even on Instagram properly, I don’t use it, but does it work like Facebook and make friends suggestions based from Your friends’ lists of friends? Could be just that.

I have separate groups of friends and often talk about them to other friends (not in a bitchy way) just sharing about my life and the people in it.
Showing someone a Facebook or Instagram page just helps them build a picture of who that person is/what they’re like.
I regularly do it because I want the people in my life to know about the other people in my life!

Isn't that what instagram is for? For people to look at your photos? If you don't like it or it weirds you out, don't put stuff of social media. I don't mean to sound like a dick but when you put things online, I don't think you can control how they are viewed.

Two people chatting about someone else....shocker. Get a grip op.

I agree that it is odd showing someone another person's pictures when they don't know them from Adam, but think that's the problem with social media. Once pictures are out there everything is public.

So you use social media ? What the hell are you moaning about, time to give yourself a shake.

How is it odd?
‘Would you like to come for drinks? I’m inviting X, here’s her instagram.. oh you think you know that person? Let’s ask X when you meet..’
If that sort of thing bothers you then stay off social media. You are being very weird

You don't know the context, maybe they were discussing hairstyles and she was recommending yours and looked on your Instagram to show her. Maybe she just thought you'd get on and showed her your 'vibe' on Instagram and now you've met. I would take it as a compliment, she told you so she has nothing to hide.

I can think of several reasons the colleague would have seen your Instagram that aren't to do with your friend directly showing her what you look like. Don't over think it.

I sometimes chat with my mum about stuff that people post on SM. Like so and so's had a baby or so and so's gone on holiday to the Maldives.

This sounds like it came about during a perfectly normal interaction. The entire pint of social media is for sharing and you need to trust the people you add to jostle when it's appropriate to show the pictures to others. Was likely just a casual chat 'oh my friend went there, look' 'we went to x this week. Fronds has a lovely photo' so many harmless possibilities

probably over thinking

You've answered your own question.

Something totally normal happened. The end.