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AIBU?

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To have fallen out with my husband

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thingamijig1 · 07/08/2022 21:11

We are on holiday at the moment with my mum, my DSister and her family. 10 of us in all.
DH and I have been having some problems lately so we had a talk before leaving both about our problems and what we would both do to try and help them/at least avoid arguments while here.
DH has decided that this week was the week to give up smoking so has been pretty grumpy at points, during our chat i asked if while on holiday was the best time to quit and he agreed it probably wasn't, but he has done it anyway and now we've all suffered with his moods.
On Friday night DH and brother in law decide to go to the pub, fine, except they dont come home until 2am absolutely pissed as farts. I phoned DH at around 1am to check they were ok, its a long dark walk back, and got shouted at for my troubles. (berated down the phone until i was shaking, and couldnt answer as was in a house with 5 sleeping children and my elderly mother)
Saturday was a total right off both my sister and i were exhausted due to being woken by the 2 drunks through the night. DH, still hasn't apologised. Im raging.
We've been having problems to the point of needing counselling/splitting up anyway so i am worried i am being unreasonable with how cross i am with him now. So AIBU?

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MrsTimRiggins · 07/08/2022 21:20

I’d be seriously questioning whether I wanted to stay in a relationship where 1. my husband shouted at me for so long and in such a manner that I was left shaking and 2. I felt I couldn’t either shut that down or end the call before I got to the point. He doesn’t sound kind and he doesn’t sound like he’s very respectful to you or your feelings.

wonderstuff · 07/08/2022 21:26

YANBU, he’s being pretty selfish both on the giving up smoking and the pub trip. I’d be raging.

thingamijig1 · 07/08/2022 21:49

MrsTimRiggins · 07/08/2022 21:20

I’d be seriously questioning whether I wanted to stay in a relationship where 1. my husband shouted at me for so long and in such a manner that I was left shaking and 2. I felt I couldn’t either shut that down or end the call before I got to the point. He doesn’t sound kind and he doesn’t sound like he’s very respectful to you or your feelings.

I hung up on him but he kept phoning back. I am seriously questioning it. I feel that phone call has been the straw that has broken the camels back.
We have 2 DC and been together 22 years. Its a big thing, but i honeslty feel im just about done.

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