Scared of the health visitor

[namechangebaby22]

I'm sure it isn't really an AIBU but did to traffic that will help.

My daughter was born at 5lb5, went down to 5 after 2 days in hospital. At the 10 day check they said she was 7.5lb and doing welll. 3 month check up they were worried about her height (just to help my DP is 5'10 and I'm 4'8 so we never expected a supermodel) Due to certain circumstances that's have happened it's the health visitor that will be out to do DD's assessment rather than a nursery nurse. My worry is.... she's been on food since just under 5 months- nothing was filling her, she was throwing up milk and my gp said to try it. It's worked amazingly but my issue is can they say anything about her gaining so much weight? To help a little at her 3 month check she was still in newborn or tiny baby clothes- she's now is 3-6 months which I know if perfect for her age but I'm so stressed out with this!

Are you sure she gained 2lb in the first 10 days? That is a huge weight gain, or is it a typo? It is usual to expect a baby to lose a little then return to birthweight by 10 days, or perhaps a little over.
That aside, the HV is only there to make sure you and your baby are thriving. They are very unlikely to find fault with you following the advice of your GP. It is usual for HVs to do the checks, so I wouldn't be concerned about that.

Relax, you are doing amazing and keeping her healthy and helping her to grow and flourish. You are her mum and you are in control, the hv is just doing their duty.

Look at the way you have cared for her and helped her to grow! 😊

Congratulations on your baby.
Your Hv should only pass on Information in order that you can make an informed choice.
As everyone is different, parents then make decisions as to what they choose today.
The advice for weaning is to aim for 6 months (best current information) and not to wean before 17 weeks.
I’m sure your HV would rather have a mum that can share with her without fear than someone worrying about her visiting.
Enjoy you’re Sunday and your baby xx

Sound like your both doing great.
My son put weight on due to having carobel in his milk, the extra calories made a lot of rolls and heavy on the scales. But, he was following his line on the weight chart with a couple of jumps but they were happy with him.

Your both doing great, don't overthink what she'll say. Your following GP advise, she's thriving.

4ft 8 is significantly below the 0.4th line for women's height. Do you have a diagnosis of short stature?

If baby is feeding well and having plenty of wet nappies, her height may just reflect her genetics.

Point this out to the HV as the usual growth charts may not be appropriate if your height is taken into account.

I suspect they will suggest a referral to a paediatrician. It may be helpful so don't dismiss this suggestion - it can be useful to shut up doubters if a paediatrician confirms she is just short and not malnourished in any way.

I'm a HV and people wean before 6 months all the time.

Its up to you what you do, all we do is give guidance.

It won't come as a shock to the HV, don't worry. And they shouldn't judge anyway.

I suspect it was the 6-8 week check and just confusing the new birth and the 6-8 week visit.

Please don't fret, it sounds like your baby is healthy and you have followed your GP's advice.
If HV wants a referral, then accept it and the paediatrician's advice supersedes your health visitor. So don't fret.

When I had my babes, solids were introduced much earlier than now.
It'll be fine.

Just be honest and don't worry. Starting solids later is advice, it's not always right for every situation. And your GP recommended it.

Have you been suffering a bit of PND or anxiety, because I think the overthinking of this may be part of that?

I won't lie I've been wondering lately if I have been suffering for PND. I love my DD more than anything and would never ever harm her but feel that everyone judges me about her

Have a chat with your gp (or the hv if you find her OK when you see her) about how you're feeling - it might be that you could do with a little bit of support, and it's better to tackle it sooner than later if you do have PND. The longer it goes on untreated, the longer it can take to haul yourself out of it. Be gentle with yourself.

@category12 I agree completely but also think is this too far along to be PND?

I think it can be classed as PND in the first year or so(?) - but either way, if you're feeling like you've got low mood or anxiety enough for it to have crossed your mind, it's worth reaching out.

I think everyone feels judged as a parent @namechangebaby22 and not just while they're at baby stage.
However you kinda care less about it as your confidence grows.
Sounds like you're doing a great job

You can be diagnosed with postnatal depression in the first year. For me it was when my son was about 11 months old and it was a real shock to hear that's what it was. I did take antidepressants and found them absolutely fantastic.

I'm not sure about you but I always thought PND meant that you were feeling miserable all the time but for me I was feeling very anxious.

I think it would be a really good idea to speak to your doctor. 💐